Adult daughter is fucking her life up and shows no insight, I don't even know what to do anymore.

So my husband and I have been married 22 years, and we have an 18 year old daughter. I admit that he and I have never had a loving relationship, but we both love our daughter, and spent lots of time with her, encouraged her, loved her, talked to her, took her places, were involved in her activities, everything we could do in that regard. He and I are both hardworking, law abiding members of society.HS was always a struggle getting her to do anything, mostly claiming responsibility for things and doing homework. She turned it around Sr year and was on the honor roll, and got a PT job, and we thought we were getting there.She turned 18 this summer and she chose a nearby college (30 miles from our home in WA state) but we opted for her to stay on campus because we all thought it would be a good experience. She didn't get into any of her top choices due to poor grades until Sr year of HS.She was only taking 12 credits for the semester and stopped showing up to workShe was arrested for felony theftTurns out she has been smoking dope since the beginning of the semester ( I could handle this by itself if she was responsible and was taking care of the rest of her business)She is skipping class more often than notShe lost a scholarship due to poor academic performanceShe will likely be expelled from campus, there is a hearing soonShe cries and says she doesn't know why she can't hold her shit down, but it's been like this since she was about 14, just with adult situations now. We've tried everything including therapy to foster a sense of responsibility and accountability, but something just didn't click I guess.What can we do? I'm out of ideas, nothing gets through to her, she shows ZERO insight and takes ZERO responsibility for anything. She acts like she's remorseful, but she does the same shit over and over so I don't believe she actually is.Should I have her withdraw immediately so an expulsion doesn't show on her record? What about the rest of her life? I am so lost and stressed out and my heart is breaking, I don't know what to do, could someone please help me with some advice or something? I always have a plan and I am just lost, and it's killing me to watch her fuck her future up. She's a bright person, and I thought she was kind, until the stealing thing, but I don't know who this person is anymore and I'm struggling so badly because I know what she's doing to herself and I just want her life to be good and her to be happy, and she is headed down the path to a hard life with just not giving a shit about anything. Please help us. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2R0Qs79