Just a young, first time father experiencing trying times with my wife and I first child

So to start off, my wife had a relatively easy pregnancy. This was our 3rd time being pregnant, first two ended in miscarriages. Our OBGYN was out of town for our 38 week appt so he said he would just see him on the 39th week. On day 3 of week 38 we went in to the hospital because my wife wasn’t feeling our little girl move at all. This was about 1 o clock on a nice Sunday afternoon last October. Twenty minutes after arriving we were being prepped and hurried to have an emergency C-section. We were both extremely anxious and scared. (I was 22, she was 24) so we are both pretty young, and uneducated about most medical terms and procedures. I remember this so clearly and can picture it like it happened 5 minutes ago still. My wife was laying down with some material dividing her torso and head so she couldn’t see them open her stomach up. She was on a pretty heavy epidural, and couldn’t be put under. I saw them pull out my baby girl and she was as pale as a ghost. She was extremely anemic to the point they were surprised she was even alive. She had some pretty severe brain damage from the lack of oxygen and blood flowing through her body. The placenta was detaching from my wife, and my wife was also hemorrhaging very badly and have severe contractions but felt absolutely zero pain, even before the epidural, she had no pain from either. Doctors later told us if we had come in even an hour later the baby wouldn’t be alive, and my wife the same.We spent 3 weeks in the NICU and our baby was finally released. She currently has physical therapy, speech therapy, vision therapy, and feeding therapy. She has many diagnosis, including HIE, microcephaly, dystonia, and her most recent diagnosis which they are about to give us, Cerebral Palsy. She is also very delayed. She turns 1 in two weeks and she is basically like a 2 month old. She doesn’t sit up by herself, barely started cooing, and other delays.My wife is such a strong woman, sometimes I don’t fully grasp how wonderful she is. How committed she is to dealing with up to 7-8 appts a week for our sweet girl since she was born.Life doesn’t seem fair, especially when we have friends whose babies are 7 months younger than ours doing things our baby hasn’t yet. But we are so blessed to have her, and her milestones when she reaches them have been so miraculous to watch and I’m so fortunate to have a child like this so I can feel the joy of watching my special needs angel do things on her own and after all the months of therapy.Sorry if this seems like a long, uncoordinated story. But it’s my journey of being a dad to the most adorable girl in the world, and having the best wife and mother to my child I could ask for. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OxbrAK