So we have a boy and a girl, 3 and 4, 16 months apart. They've been raised together in a strong healthy household with my wife and I their entire lives. They have their own rooms, and they both get a balanced amount of our attention. We do most things together, but sometimes we'll each take them out alone just to get some time for each of them. When they were born it was in very similar circumstances as far as our position in life, with each of us working. We put them in daycare as soon as my wife's leave ran out, and about 6 months ago we made the decision for my wife to stop working and stay home while I worked and went to Grad School. I can't think of anything about our style of parenting that has been different in any way, but the older one just seems different. He is a boy and the younger one in a girl, she is the sweetest thing in the world, constantly being very polite to people, and listening and doing what we say to be safe. The boy however, while he's mostly polite around people, he changes when we're alone, even in public. He won't listen very well, he gets very upset at any hint of correction, and it seems just like he's doing things for the sole reason he knows he shouldn't, followed by saying things like he hates us and stuff like that. My wife is convinced it's her fault and she shouldn't be a mother and she's raising them wrong and ruining them. I keep trying to tell her that this is mostly normal, he's a boy, he'll learn, but she's not convinced. I don't know if she's wrong or i'm wrong or we're both wrong or we're both right, but it's gotta be something. What can we do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Hytn7U
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