[27/F] How do I make my husband [27/M] understand how hard it is being 'number 1 parent' and that raising our kids should be a joint effort?

I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 4. We have two children 6 & 3. He works fulltime as an Electrician and I'm a SAHM and also work part time 15 hours per week minimum at an IT company.He comes home from work (8 hour to 12 hour shift) and mentions how tired and stressed he is and will not actively help out with the kids unless asked to. All every day tasks eg school lunches, book readers, organsing clothes/school bags, homework etc is always done by myself while he 'unwinds' from work be it on his phone or going outside to do something. If I ask him to do them he will generally complain then do it or just say he is busy doing work stuff.I understand that his job is hard work, there is no denying it, he works bloody hard but I wish that I could somehow make him understand that my jobs are also really hard but that it should be a team effort when it comes to raising our kids.He only seems to want to help when it's the 'fun' stuff such as playing outside, taking them on motorbikes etc but never thinks the school lunches, night time readers, teeth brushing or general communication with the kids is his responsibility. When ever I bring it up and suggest he spend more time with them doing the 'every day' things, he always just says that they want me to do it anyways so there is no point.It's extremely frustrating and hard having the 'number 1 parent' hat on all the time and I'm finding that I'm loosing myself in the process. It almost feels as if I'm a single mum with a husband instead of both of us being the parents.I just don't know what to do or say that will change his perception, or if it is even possible to do so? Any advice would be appreciated. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HvJN0W