Husband tells me he is the "fun" parent so can't put the baby to bed - advice needed!

Hi Mums and Dads of reddit.I'm posting this here and not r/beyondthebump because I want input from both mothers and fathers.Basically, to make a long story short, I have a 9 1/2 month old son. I stay home at the moment but have a job lined up to start in a few months time. My husband works full time during the week (mostly 7-3, home by 3:30 most days) and works the odd weekend. He gets one weekday off a fortnight (paid) as a kind of "rest day". So yeah, he works, but it's not killer hours by any stretch.My problem arises with the fact that my husband claims that he is unable to put our son to bed or down for naps. Ever. His reason is that he is the "fun" parent who our son associates with playtime, whereas I am the "food and sleep" parent (I make all his baby food, feed him 90% of his meals, breastfeed, put him to bed etc).So anyway, when my son was younger I was fine with this because I kind of agreed that the association with breastfeeding/sleep was a thing. I was always home to put him to bed. But now, he is bigger and eats 3 solid meals a day. He happily takes a sippy cup and bottle. He goes into his bed awake and puts himself to sleep. Yet my husband still struggles to put him to bed. Like baby screaming and husband frantically calling me to get home ASAP.This is becoming a major issue for me as I want (need!) some freedom back. I need to be able to go out and have dinner with friends, or go to the movies. I work the odd shift in my friends bar when they need a spare set of hands and it can be really stressful as my husband gets an attitude if I tell him a need to leave to go to work before the baby is in bed. I worked last night and I had to tell my friend I couldn't get there at the time we agreed because the baby wasn't asleep yet and my husband wouldn't let me go until the baby was down. I went for drinks with a friend the other afternoon for their birthday and agreed I wouldn't be home "too late" but was called before 6pm (baby bed time 5:30) to come home because he wouldn't go into his bed without me! I will admit that I was drunk (I rarely drink anymore as I have 0 tolerance post pregnancy and get drunk on two wines) and so I had to come home just to listen to my baby screaming because I couldn't breastfeed him. I have never experienced anything more horrible. But I thought I'd be ok to have drinks because I thought his dad was putting him down and he usually sleeps through most if not all of the night.I could literally write on about this forever but I don't want to bore you. Reddit parents - what can I do? Is this just the natural dynamic or at 9 months should the load be shared a little more? Any and all advice appreciated! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2nyjzC8