Anyone who's parented a teen know that they are unpredictable, frustrating, and careless. My son who is almost 15, has proven to be no exception. Background: Been with my wife since my son was 6, and he was my only child. Married her when he was 8, and the same year I married my wife, his bio-mother passed away. Whether my wife wanted to or not, she was thrust into a very awkward situation. We sought counseling for my son after the loss of his mother, and started treating him for depression and ADD. Now, we've gone through many family struggles and we somehow manage to come out as a family. My wife and I also have a Daughter together who is 5 1/2. Now that my son is a teen, we've really struggled on how to manage his wild surprising moments. It's been a true test I don't think anyone can truly be prepared for. But just when things were going fairly smooth, my wife caught him trying to spy on her in the bathroom. Here's how it happened: Our back patio backs up to our bathroom, and there is a window that sits up high, directly next to the shower. When the shower curtain is open, you can see the entire bathroom (which is tiny). While my wife was on the toilet, she heard a noise, and looked over and say what looked like a phone camera poking up through the window, and pointed at her. She hollered, and the phone disappeared. She scrambled to exit the bathroom, and confronted my son, in which he denied doing it, but his face was bright red and he was obviously quite nervous. He was caught. My wife was obviously VERY furious at him and took his phone immediately away from him. I was asleep at the time (14 hour work day), and she came in fuming about what happened. Being stunned, I didn't know what to say or do. All I could muster to my son is to stay out of everyone's face until we had a chance to sort this. At the moment I'm writing this, the incident is less than 12 hours old. My son is on his way to an out of town baseball tournament, in which my wife proposed he didn't go to, and I support that, but we didn't enforce him not going for several lame reasons.Long story short; my son committed a criminal act against my wife. I'm furious with him, and I'm horrified for my wife. I feel like my wife is super pissed at me for not taking action...but I honestly don't know what to say or do...so much so, I'm reaching out to Reddit for advice/ridicule. My initial thoughts are finding a sexual violence shelter to volunteer at so he can see the ramifications of his sexual deviance. I don't know how to help my wife through this either, and I'm sure she's resenting me for that. I personally am exhausted by the challenges of parenting a teen, and it doesn't seem to be getting any easier. Any ideas, thoughts, ideas, or suggestions are completely welcome. Also, I'm currently working on reading through "Step-Monster", so I'm also learning more about the struggles of Step-Mothering. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2oMG1Jt
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