A few times lately, he's gotten upset because his friends from school, whom he plays Xbox with remotely, have abandoned him (left the game) "for no reason". He's allowed to play in weekends, so I'm sitting in the other room listening to him on the Xbox with his friends. And for 10 minutes straight, he was whining in such a high pitched voice I couldn't even understand what he was saying. When he's with us, we always nip the whining in the bud immediately, but he doesn't yet nip it on his own. I called him to come here, and I told him that his whining was very annoying to me and probably to his friends too, and that may be why his friends leave "for no reason". He told me he was "upset" that one of his friends had "stolen all his stuff when away for 5 minutes" (I have no idea what that means), but I told him whining about it wasn't not a good way to handle it. I suggested he accept it's part of the game or leave the game. He has since gone back to playing with his friends with a normal voice.But this got me to thinking. I can't remember a time when he has expressed the emotion of anger in any way other than crying or whining. I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing. Anger is a natural emotion, and maybe it's bad because he doesn't know how to properly express it. Or, maybe it's good because he's so sweet, yelling or pouting, or some other "normal" expression of anger is not in him or he hasn't figured out a way to express it. I can totally see him not showing anger because he doesn't want to hurt someone's feelings.He's a very sensitive, empathetic and kind child, I'm not sure I want to teach him how to express anger, but he's 9...this whining can't continue.Any thoughts? Do something or leave it alone and let him learn it naturally? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2peOMbP
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