hey all, first time ever in this sub, I don't really know where to turn so I'm hoping Reddit can help me out. This is long, so thanks for the time. Also, onmobile so sorry for any typos.My son is 2, turning 3 in July. He is super smart (been talking in full sentences from around 18 months, has a huge vocabulary, etc), caring, and sweet... most of the time. But we've been dealing with a couple issues lately that I'm really beginning to think aren't normal and may require some help.he's the 3rd of 4 kids all pretty close in age. oldest is a girl, 5. then a boy who turns 4 next month. then him, again, turning 3 in July. and then a new baby brother, 3 months. (To stop you right there, all issues that follow are pre new baby.)First thing that is starting to concern me is his seeming obsession over things. If there is something he wants he can NOT get over it until he has it. For example, today when we got home from church he wanted to push the button to close the van door. for a reason I'll explain in a moment, he didn't get to. He went into full on meltdown mode screaming about the van door for over an hour before he fell asleep. When he woke up, one of the first things he asked to do was go push the button... even when it's not a meltdown, he'll ask for something every 10 seconds until he gets it. this has gone on for what I would consider ridiculously long lengths of time. Its like a single thought or desire consumes him. Is that normal...? Our other kids, which is the only data I can draw from, never did anything like that.Then there are the tantrums... and I don't think they're regular 2 year olds tantrums. His siblings would get upset when they didn't get there way but it was nothing like this in either intensity or length. His tantrums will consistently run over an hour, sometimes 2, happen 2-4 times a week, involve hitting us, kicking us, throwing things, biting himself... you name it, he's doing it. Both yesterday and today he screamed until he threw up. We've tried everything we can think of... positive reinforcement, punishments, yelling, calmly talking... and haven't found anything that helps. Pretty much now we just let him go and he eventually wears himself out.With the van door today... He wanted to push the one on the passenger side but mom already told his sister she could. No big deal, get out my side and push that one, right? Wrong. He got out and stubbornly stood there because it wasn't the button he wanted. After having asked 3 times if he wanted to push it, I was done. So I did. and the world ended.actually, that leads me to another concern... His stubbornness. Again, I feel like it's abnormal. We will explain to him in a way that I am 100% positive he understands that if he doesn't do something, he'll get punished. He will take the punishment. every. single. time. Multiple times in a row, at that.So, I'm dealing with an inability to drop things, mt. st. helens style blow ups, and the most stubborn human I've ever met (and that's not an exaggeration and its not even close) .... where do we go? In my looking around I found a "5 red flags of your toddlers tantrums" and he's nailing every one... so then what?We're totally blessed to have him, he really is a wonderful little dude (although I make him sound terrible). Clearly we're missing something though... and for all of our sakes, I need to figure out what. His mom is a saint for putting up with it so often but she's clearly getting worn out by it.Any help on if it's just a stage and, if not, what to do is greatly appreciated. medicating him is an absolute last step for us... there has to be a better way. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2oQ4yOl
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