I could really use some advice on how to handle two rowdy nearly 2 and 4 year old boys.

I have two wonderful boys. The oldest is nearly 4 and the youngest nearly 2. I love them with all my heart, but the past couple of months have been really rough parenting them. They've reached a point where they are just constantly fighting with each other and I'm honestly just stumped on how to handle it.My oldest is very by the book, cautious, kind, and friendly. While at times he can be a good listener, he is also a silly little boy who loves to be so goofy that he often times gets so loud and so wound up that he just cant seem to listen or really calm down for a couple of hours. Even his pre-k teacher has said that he's a great kid, never mean, just silly and doesn't really know how to calm down. I try everything to calm him down. Quiet time, redirection to calm activities, getting on his level and talking quietly, time outs, rewards, etc. Often times when he's so wound up, I can't seem to hold his attention for more than a few seconds. His teacher says at school he doesn't seem to be abnormal in this regards, just has a hard time calming down. So, I don't even know how to go about doing this.On top of that is my youngest, who is one feisty little man. He's a good kid, is gentle with babies and animals, is starting to listen a little bit better, but he's my wild child who will dart off without notice and pick fights with his brother. I feel like 75% of the conflicts between the two of them come from my youngest. My oldest will be doing something on his own and out of nowhere comes the baby, running up, tackling, headbutting his brother. Then my oldest will push back and my youngest starts scratching and trying to bite and my oldest pushes more and screams in his face and I run over and separate them and put the baby in time out and correct him. If my oldest has tried hurting the baby, I correct him as well. They are usually both screaming and I'm trying to keep my calm while I try to get through to my oldest that he has to be the bigger boy and not try to hurt back. That he needs to tell my youngest to stop and to come and get me. Of course, it's only a natural reaction for him to want to hit his younger brother back, but I really try to work with him on staying calm, taking a deep breath, directing his anger elsewhere, etc.Of course, sometimes my oldest starts the fight by taking a toy from his brother's hands or doing something like teasing him and sticking his tongue out at him right in his face.It would be one thing if this were a once or twice a day occurrence, but it happens so often! Some days are better than others, but on those bad days where this is just nonstop, I lose my patience and end up yelling. I grew up in a house with constant yelling, fighting, and verbal abuse, and so every time I end up yelling I'm so scared I'm scarring my kids. I want them to live in a peaceful home, and yet there are times where I feel like I can't get them to listen to me without resorting to yelling.I'm hoping that so much of this is just normal for their ages, since my oldest is still learning how to sort out his emotions and respond appropriately to situations and since my youngest is still, well, still fairly babyish. I could just really use any advice anyone might have to give. I feel like I'm at a loss for coming up with a solid plan on how to correct my kids and steer them toward more peaceful interactions.Thanks in advance, Mom who thought two kids was so easy until the youngest became self aware :P via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2nSdhKZ