I am a single dad of three wonderful boys. I have "standard" visitation of them between myself and their mothers. I will not bore you guys with the details, but over the course of a two-year court battle, my ex was allowed to move to another state with the boys because she got a good job offer. The boys and I were devastated and we lost all of the extra time the judge had given us together. Following the kids' move, I am only allowed to get them every other weekend. I found myself missing the tantrums or the arguing that little kids sometimes do. I sometimes find myself LONGING to hear their little voices yelling back and forth at each other. It is strange, I suppose. When they are with me and these little "unpleasantries" arise, I find myself smiling and soaking it in. I hear/read on Facebook about some people complaining about different things their kids do that annoy them. I cannot help but think, "man I WISH I had that problem." or "Geez what I would give for my kids to be here RIGHT NOW complaining about whatever they are complaining about that annoys you so much.". I would GLADLY take the worst my kids could dish out as long as they were here. My ex has actually texted me before and made comments about how aggravated she has been about something they did. I was quick to let her know that she is LUCKY to have that problem and that I would be MORE THAN HAPPY to take them for a day or two to give her a chance to get a break. Needless to say, she never took me up on that offer, nor has she complained to me about it again.I know that in the heat of a fit-pitching session or a temper tantrum, it may be hard to find ANY positive, but the next time it happens try to stop for a second and know that there are parents out there that would do nearly ANYTHING to be in your shoes and have that problem.Thanks for reading. (I am new to writing these things out. Feels good to write out some things that I have been feeling for so long.) via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ohMmvs
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