I'm going to keep this short because typing about this is really difficult. I have a son, Ryan (not his real name), and I always had trouble bonding with him. There was always something about him I couldn't put my finger on. Eventually, my wife admitted to having cheated on me with several men at the time she got pregnant. We took a DNA swab and I am not his biological father.I sacrifice a lot in order to make my marriage work and to support my son. I dropped out of Rutgers in my final year in order to work full time to make enough money for the three of us...for nothing. The boy isn't even mine.I really want to leave. I want to divorce my wife and, I know this sounds horrible, leave Ryan as well. He's a toddler right now, so he wouldn't even remember me at this point. I really just don't want to be a part of this "family" anymore. I want to petition the court to take me off the birth certificate.People, including my own parents, are telling me to "step up" and "be a dad". Why should I? Ryan isn't my son. My wife USED me for my money and to be a make believe father for her son because, in her own words, "those other men are trash!". I never felt a connection with Ryan...I think this is why. I knew he wasn't mine subconciously.I'm scared though. It's not that I want to wish ill will to Ryan. I know it sounds like I hate him but it's more that I hate the situation. I just want to make a clean getaway and avoid being attached to a kid that isn't mine. I mean, I have no rights to him. If his real dad comes back into the picture, he can petition for custody whereas I lose pretty much all my rights as a parent. This is so painful. I just need to hear from other parents. What would you do? Would leaving him be the right thing for me to do? Am I a bad person for wanting to bail? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2e6lIRt
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