3 year old says he hates daddy and won't let him help him in any way.

Hello!Tl;dr: son won't let dad do anything and has started saying he doesn't love him. How can i (mom) handle this properly?So let me preface this by saying my husband is a loving, patient, gentle man who does not deserve this negativity.I have two kids: one 3 year old boy and one 13 month girl. My son has always preferred me (mom) and made it well known. He always wants me to sit with him, clothe him, hug him when he falls, etc, but now it's getting ridiculous. My husband isn't allowed to do anything. My son doesn't just prefer me, he'll only allow me.My husband can't buckle him in his car seat, play games with him, read him books, help him go potty, sometimes even tell him information (he'll come to me and tell me).... He has to come with me everywhere I go and include me in everything. Unless it's super high value and the possibility of not getting to do it is there.He's also started saying he hates daddy. I tell him that that's not true and it hurts daddy's feelings when he says that. Also, when daddy says he loves him my son will say, "no, mommy loves me" and dad will say, "that's right, but I love you too" and my son will sometimes get upset and say only I love him or that he only loves me.I don't think this has anything to do with the younger sister because she never enters into the equation.I should also add we're staunch with "it's your body, it's your choice" unless it's not feasible (doctor, having to dress and diaper, etc). So we don't like to force him to be touched by anyone if he really doesn't want to be. Also, it's horrible to have to force someone to do something with you when they're screaming they'd rather be with someone else.We've tried me just flat out saying no, daddy can do whatever it is he wanted me to do instead, (He will melt down and bawl). We've tried talking about it (how daddy loves him too and wants to help him just as much as I do). We've tried taking turns (mommy puts on one shoe and daddy the other).Is there anything else we can be doing? My daughter is attached to me too. She always prefer I do everything but will still accept daddy if I'm clearly busy (most times).I work from home, and am with them 95% of the time.Daddy says he understands and is trying not to take it heart but it's obviously heartbreaking and we'd love to help our son go back to letting daddy do things. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2eluYRg