Husband is too indulgent with 3 year old son

My husband is generally a good man. I think that ultimately, he means well and doesn't mean any harm. However, he is too indulgent with our 3 year old son. Let me explain.My husband never wants to let our son be sad. You see, my husband was abused by his parents, and I think that he has a lot of emotional baggage from his childhood that prevents him from making good parenting decisions. When our son was a baby, he would always rock our son to sleep and let our son sleep in his arms the whole night. He thought it was cruel to have to make our son cry himself to sleep. Now, because of this bad habit during the baby years, our son cannot sleep in his own bed or self-soothe, which means that my husband usually cosleeps with our son.This also prevents my husband from being able to execute discipline. If he hears our son crying because he had to go to a time out, he will immediately scoop our son up and distract him with something else so that he doesn't cry. Or, if our son is throwing a tantrum about having to eat a certain food or pick up his toys, for example, then my husband will pick up our son's toys for him or give him the food he wants. Also, our son isn't yet potty trained because of my husband. When our son is crying about having to sit on the potty, our husband will immediately scoop him up and tell our son that he doesn't have to go on the potty if he doesn't want to. He thinks it's cruel to make our son do things that he doesn't want to do and have to cry through them.Finally, he also spoils our son with lots of toys. Before he had to work from home, he would stop at the store on his way home from work and buy a toy worth $40 every 2 weeks on his payday, and whenever we were at the store and our son saw something we wanted, our husband would immediately buy it for him, which means that our son would get at least two new toys every week.I don't know how to get through to him that his behavior is harmful to our son and that it's fine to let our son be sad. Telling our son no or making our son stand in the corner for three minutes certainly isn't abuse; it's giving him boundaries, self-discipline, and is helping him learn how to cope with his emotions. Kids don't need toys constantly; they need experiences. It's not acceptable at age 3 as it is to cosleep, and if he continues to cosleep with our son, our son will never learn how to self-soothe. My husband had had some half-baked attempts at discipline, but after a certain point, he can't stand letting our son cry, so he always caves. It's like he's incapable of doing discipline. How can I get my husband to stop being a pushover and grow a spine? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/34Yv8Hj