I apologize for this mornings word vomit but I am feeling overwhelmed. This is going to be all over the place. Thank you for reading.DD has her 8 month well check last week and while I was aware she was somewhat behind in her milestones, I didn’t realize how far it is. The doctor asked me some questions about her development and when I started answering no he stopped and said, “well, we’ll see how she is doing at her next visit.” I feel like he stopped mid way through asking about her development so I’m sort of freaking out about how much further behind she is. While DD babbles constantly I don’t hear “m” babble, lots of “d” and “t.” She doesn’t wave, or clap just baby excitement flailing. She can’t get from laying to sitting position on her own. She still hates tummy time but will roll out of it any chance she gets, she doesn’t crawl (I know it’s not a milestone) she kind of moves backwards slowly but I don’t think she does it intentionally. I read about babies her age stacking blocks and putting them in their correct fitting slot or at least like putting things in a box. My little girl hits them together and likes playing with the container. She doesn’t try to get to a standing position or climb on things, though she does this whale breaching the surface thing where she will be laying next to me and will end up on my pillow face to face with me (it’s really cute). If anyone follows the wonder weeks app she is in the 6th mental leap and has been moody and clingy and sometimes super loving and she pinches when she is upset.I wanted to do baby lead weaning but am constantly being told those pieces are too big by my parents (they actually told me that I need to stop pushing her to grow up and let her be a baby). I showed them videos of babies eating larger pieces of food and spitting out what they can’t handle of let’s say a sautéd soft zucchini spear. Their response was, those are moms not doctors we cannot support this. I gave the baby some pieces of cheese and the response was that’s too big for her, it was a piece about the size of a pea. DD has been constipated and I wanted to give her some pieces of prune and was told to boil it and give her some prune water. I can’t deal with this, I am told that they know more about raising kids because they have “raised” their kids more than 25-30+ years ago. Excuse me father, you admitted you were at work and needed to rest so you didn’t take part in raising your kids, your wife gave her kids to her mother to keep for her.Day care is afraid to feed baby because they don’t understand that babies gag reflex is in the front two thirds of her mouth and it scared them that she is going to choke and want her food puréed, It’s the same size food as the frozen peas and carrots from the frozen section, pieces she can grab herself and put in her mouth like Cheerios and smaller. And she is also breast fed but because she has been fussy when she finishes the bottle that she should be having bottles with 6-7 oz in them, excuse me but no, breast milk changes with the child’s needs not the amount, I will put an extra .5oz in her bottles but not 2-2.5oz. They have an extra bag of frozen breast milk incase they need it.I am beyond frustrated because I am currently renting a room at my dads place and any decision I make is “overruled” I am told that dd is too little and not to push her. My child is 8 1/2 months old and only has floor time in my room, my parents spoil the baby and hold her, don’t let her reach for anything or get herself up, or do anything for herself, I tell them not to let her bite them or pull hair and they are like “oh it’s ok” and I get calls from the daycare that it’s a problem. I don’t want them putting anything from their mouth to hers, even if it’s just a bite. I know that she needs more floor and less hand time to grow but I feel stuck, my parents just won’t listen and it’s preventing my daughter from growing. Whenever I say that she is behind they get butthurt and blame me because I am the mom and it’s my responsibility to raise her, they don’t listen. I know I am to blame too but I am genuinely afraid that if I say something to them I will get kicked out. I want to scream.Oh, and last night dd was playing with a bottle of baby dove lotion and actually ate some while I was putting her baby tub away. On a good note she pooped this morning, so there is that. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/30xxkTt
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