I'll explain that question mark at the end of my title in a bit...2 years ago I met a woman who was married. I fell for her and when i made my advance all that time ago, she shut me down and said she didn't know I wanted her like that and that her marriage had plenty of trouble as it is without me being another reason they were in shambles. I told her i'd wait and I respected her wishes and stepped away.2 years have passed and in 2018, her and her husband filed for divorce. I then went for it again and after several months, she finally agreed to go have drinks with me. We dated for a while and made it official. I got the woman I've wanted for a long time.She has a 7 year old boy and I have 3 kids, 2 sons and a daughter. Mine are all teens. When it was time to introduce my kids to her, my sons took it well, my daughter said she needed a little time to process it but wasn't closed off to the idea of hanging out sometimes with her. Thats fair I suppose.Her 7 year old son has gotten progressively worse. At first it was him throwing himself on the floor and crying about her moving on with me. At those times we offered reassurance that he was the focus of everyones love. He turned his head to me and said "if you love me, you would give back mommy to my daddy. My daddy is sad all the time and he said mommy is a bad wife"I had no fking clue what to even say to that. I wanted to tell him that, his mom suggested couples therapy and that she showed up to couples counseling alone while her ex husband stayed home getting high and drunk. But I'll never say that shit to someones kid, especially a 7 year old.Time has gone by and its gotten worse. It was her birthday not too long ago and we went to a restaurant. He didn't want me there at all so I offered to leave them two alone (as I usually do) and before she could answer, this 7 year old kid said "get your fucking ass out" very loudly in front of everyone.Im Hispanic and if I would have said that, my ass would have been beat down right there and then. However, she's White, they have a different way of doing things. She dediced to explain to him why what he said was wrong. When she leaned in to explain, he grabbed her hair and yanked on it. Thats when I stepped in, grabbed his arms and took him outside to the car. He was calling me and her every name in the book.Its only gotten worse from there. He is now in therapy and it hasn't been helping at all. In front of the therapists this kid is Jesus Christ but when he gets home, he becomes Hitler. This therapist is just saying time will help.In my own head, an ass whooping will do the trick BUT, he's not my kid, I dont have say in that and thats fine.I dont know wtf to do and my significant other looks defeated and I feel like im just standing around doing nothing.I feel like its all happening because of me. I feel like I should be responsible and leave before I give this kid more issues than Marvel Comics.So Reddit, please if anyone has ANY suggestions at all. Right now is the time to tell me. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2YJlT9L
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