I posted about this co-parenting dilemma a week ago or so when me kid's dad (my ex) and I both volunteered to chaperone a field trip. I was upset at having to decide to either not go or share the experience with him and the struggles of co-parenting in general. Well, let me tell you how things went! Another episode in the disaster of my life...I ended up taking the high ground and decided to co-chaperone a group with my ex, knowing my son would be so excited to have both his parents on the field trip. I was disappointed, but it was the right thing to do. Then a couple days before, his dad said he can't go because he has an interview. I was thrilled and thought I had earned some good karma points by deciding we'd both go!Here we are, day of the field trip. I'm so excited to have the day off from work to enjoy with my son. They are at their dads house this week, so I show up at the school to meet up with the class, without my son, expecting his Dad dropped him off like normal. Only I get to the class to find my child isn't there!! Next thing I know, it's 15 mins past school starting and still, I'm just here ready for the zoo WITHOUT MY SON. I'm calling my ex on repeat, he isn't answering. Everyone is preparing to get on the bus. I get ahold of his step mom and she is surprised he never showed up too. We're both panicked, she leaves work to check on the house. I decide not to get on the bus and stay waiting outside the office for their arrival.So I sat there waiting to hear from the step mom who is like 40 mins from their house, PANICKED. I can complain about many things regarding my ex, but he's always early for things and is good about answering the phone. I just talked to him the night before about sending a bag lunch with our son, so he knew about the trip for sure... I was so stressed they got into a car accident coming to school or that he was unresponsive/didn't wake up for a medical reason. I just sat there for the better part of an hour trying to remember to breath and not cry, while shaking because I was so worried.Finally, I get a call from him. This idiot slept through his alarm on the one day his son has a field trip the whole year! On top of nearly ruining his son's day with his friends, his incompetence made me look like such a fool! Like oh there's the dumb mom who showed up to chaperone without her child!? Obviously I'm happy he's ok and the kids are ok, but what the actual fuck is wrong with this person? I try so hard to do my best for my kids. I was so prepared today. We're also new to this city and I'm desperate to make some parent friends and become a part of our school's community. This is already hard with working full time and now I'm the disaster mom who doesn't even know where her kids are. But my poor children have to deal with this kind of crap (it's literally always something with their dad) and I feel so helpless. Every time he does something fucked up like this, I try to think about how we can avoid it and what I can do to compensate for his incompetence, then he throws another curve ball (a completely different, new incompetent behavior). I'm SO tired of co-parenting. I'm so tired of banging my head against the wall just trying to give my kids a normal life.Why is it so hard???TLDR: I'm divorced and co-parent 2 boys with my ex (50/50). I showed up to chaperone my son's field trip and his dad never brought him to school. After an hour of being unable to get ahold of him and panicking at the school while feeling like an idiot, turns out my ex slept through his alarm this morning and was asleep. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2USbLcl
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