My 13 y/o son is lazy. I don’t mean your typical teen laziness, I mean so lazy that he can’t even put the toilet seat (the one you sit on) up to pee. He will lift the lid but pee all over the seat, leave it there and close the lid and not flush. Oh, when he shits, he doesn’t even wipe his ass. I know because he doesn’t flush the damn toilet. I have to remind him at least 2 times in the morning to brush his teeth. And then to rinse his toothbrush afterwards. Most of the time I’m pretty sure he doesn’t even use toothpaste because if he did, he would put the lid back on.He has a bedroom in the basement, that’s trashed, and an adjoining basement area that should be like a family room, that he has trashed also. He sleeps on the couch because his room is so disgusting. He leaves garbage everywhere and mostly stuffs it under the couch or wherever he can instead of just throwing it away. I can’t even tell you how many dishes, cups, and silverware have disappeared from the kitchen never to be seen again.So, basically, I’ve just given up. I’m sick of fighting with him to clean his shut up and do the simplest everyday tasks. I’ve taken everything away from him for months and he doesn’t care. I’ve even cleaned up his mess, knowing that he’d be pissed, but he just trashed it again. He has been diagnosed with ADHD but refuses to take his meds. When I make him take them, he just holds them in his cheek and throws them away. Funny how he will throw those away, but not actual garbage! I also have ADD, and was similar to him (messy but not as disgusting) as a kid. So, I haven’t been the best role model for him when he was growing up, as far as organizational skills. I was diagnosed 9 years ago and am currently being treated. It has changed my life drastically. I wish he wouldn’t fight me on his medication because I know it would help him too. His grades are also slipping and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I basically said, well if that’s how you want to live your life, then so be it...The other issue is my boyfriend. We have been together for almost 4 years. We have a 3 year old together and I am currently pregnant again. For this reason he thought that he could parent my 13 y/o, and discipline him. This completely backfired and I was so sick of fighting about it that I told him he needed to back the fuck off and had no right to parent my child at all. After that our relationship has been better with less fighting. Until today when he sent me about 20 texts while I was at work telling me that I need to do something about my son. He sent pictures of the disgusting mess my teen has made and told me I need to do something about it. He also doesn’t believe in ADHD, (even though diagnosed by a psychologist) and thinks my son is just being lazy. But I know ADHD is a huge part of it.I literally don’t know what to do anymore and I don’t know who to go to for help. I recently put my son in counseling but he refuses to let me in the room and then refuses to talk to the therapist. She doesn’t even know what to do because he won’t talk to her.His father is not involved in his life, so there is no help there.Please help. Or send cookies. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2XdUixr
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