Cross-posting from r/relationships, IE copy/pasting. Hope this is coherent.Recently, my 5 year old son has stopped letting me and his father help him bathe, and refuses to dress unless the door is shut.I’m not bothered much by the ladder, though it’s concerning since months before he was happy to run around naked at any hour of the day, and I think he’s too young to be unsupervised in the bath. Because of all this, he has to go in with his older brother (11M) who he doesn’t seem to mind bathing him or seeing him undressed.Things have been quite a bit hectic in our house lately, as my husband’s brothers ‘L’ (22M) and ‘J’ (25M) have just moved in with us, along with L’s husband ‘W’ (36M).We’ve allowed them to stay because we have a plenty large house and 6 kids (the 2 mentioned, and a 7M, 10M, 6M, and 7M - the first 7M and 6M are from my husband’s first marriage) who we could have used the help with.My 5 year old has also recently started wetting the bed at least once a week, normally more, and my husband told me the other day he thought he was limping.He brought this all up to me as different points in a long conversation we had yesterday, and told me he thinks that W or J could be hurting him in some way. When I asked what he meant, he shut down, and screamed at me asking if I was fit to have kids since I ‘don’t know anything’.I was worried sick for the rest of the day, and when we got in bed that night, he apologized, but wouldn’t tell me what he thought.I’ve kept an extra eye on 5M and am going to ask 11M if anything seems off when he helps him in the bath. I’m fairly sure what my husband was getting at was that 5M may be being abused, and am very worried.I’ll note that I’ve known L since he was 10, when I met my husband; he’s meek and a total sweetheart and I don’t believe at all he’d do anything like that, which I’m assuming my husband thought as well.J I know well enough, but my husband and I both barely know W. We wanted to help them all out in a rough spot and assumed trust in L, and now I don’t know what to think.5M seems to always want to be near one of his older siblings and also will no longer sleep alone, and as I’m writing this, I’m getting more and more convinced and suspicious as well.How do I even begin to approach this? I haven’t let 5M out of my sight this whole week so far and I’m making him sleep with me and his father or 11M. He seems relieved when 11M or I invite him.I don’t wanna ruin his trust in me by probing him with questions and I also don’t know who I should be keeping him away from. I feel like I’m failing as a mother. The thought of someone hurting my baby sickens me.Any advice helps.TL;DR - My 5 year old son refuses to dress in front of anyone or bathe with anyone other then his 11M brother, has been wetting his bed very frequently, won’t sleep alone, and my husband thinks he walks with a limp sometimes. My brother in laws have also recently moved in, as well as BIL’s husband. My husband suspects abuse. What do I do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JfhJjf
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