toddler all of the sudden doesn't like going to daycare

Hello all! I was hoping some of you might be able to provide some advice with a situation me and my wife are experiencing. Our son has been in daycare since he was 6 months old (he's 2.5 yrs old now). He has absolutely loved going and we have never had an issues with him until this week. The women that run the daycare are absolutely wonderful and seem to really care about our son. I've done some research on google and reddit for similar situations, but, I have some unique flags that I am not sure if we should be concerned with. Generally the advice I have seen is to make the drop off at daycare brief and try to suppress any anxiety we may have ourselves. My routine has always been to bring him into the daycare, sign him in, give a quick hug and head out. I have not changed this routine ever. I think I've done a good job at this routine. Since the problem began 3 days ago it has gotten worse each day.Two weeks ago we were on vacation spending a lot of time with our son. We are fully aware this could be a big factor and we are weighing it into our concerns. However, he wasn't upset about going to daycare the first 4 days back at daycare. Now I am certainly not an expert at adolescent psychology, but, I would think that the anxiety he might be having would be fairly immediate. I could be wrong about this so I am hoping someone may have some insight.The other thing we have come across is that one of the workers at the daycare screams at the kids. I say scream because it isn't a tone used to control a kid who is doing wrong. The lady is screaming in a way that immediately set off a warning sign. I went through basic training in the military a long time ago so I would say I am fairly familiar with being yelled at. My wife experienced the same scream the following week. We were not okay with this and admittedly we didn't do anything or say anything because it wasn't our kid. We were alarmed and talked about it and looking back we are definitely regretful we didn't at least raise the red flag to the director. I find the way this lady yelled to be an issue for two reasons. 1) The yell in no way I can think would get the point across to anyone at any age. The only thing that could possibly come of it in my eyes is fear from a small child or a defensive reaction from an adult. 2) This was also alarming that both me and my wife heard it two separate weeks. This signals to me that it has to be going on more than these instances and the leadership at the daycare may be okay with it. If they aren't okay with it then they just aren't doing their job and watching over their workers.The next unique instance about situation happened today. I woke up to my son softly whining which I waited to check on because I was hoping he would just go back to sleep. He eventually started screaming and I ran in to check on him. He had soiled his diaper so I began changing him. Right around the time I had cleaned his diaper he started crying loudly and saying "I go lay down" over and over and pulled away to try and lay down. This frightened the hell out of me because I felt he was deeply fearful of something. My wife and I never yell at our son period and bed time for him is actually quite a joy for us. I can't think of a time where he would have a traumatic experience with going to sleep while at home. The daycare did inform us at some point he was waking up in the middle of nap time screaming, but, this was months ago. I feel like my son has experienced something traumatic recently when it comes to him sleeping at daycare. I was eventually able to calm him down and we began getting ready. As soon as I told him to go get his shoes he threw the biggest fit about going to daycare (or leaving the house) ever. Honestly I decided to stay home from work because I am very troubled by this.I do understand that if there isn't some other factor we could just be contributing to an increase in his anxiety. I am worried that he experienced a traumatic event either by a worker yelling at him or something dealing with his nap time.My wife and I's plan is to keep him out of daycare today and she is going to go talk to the director. We are going to ask how he is doing, what his nap time has been like, if he is having any trouble with any of the kids at the daycare. It is hard to think of things to ask without being accusing, but, also we need to find out whats going on.Any suggestions would be wonderful even if it's just suck it up and stop contributing to your kids anxiety. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2vsCDby