Tuesday, 17 April 2018

SAHMs. Do you find yourself resenting your spouse or children because you can't identify as a real worthy person anymore?


My husband is very good at what he does and makes decent money doing it. The hours are terrible and it seems like, on top of said hours, he always has additional meetings or gatherings that he needs to attend. We have two littles and another arriving soon. I know that he enjoys his job and has friends within the workplace, but he also goes out semi-regularly. I, however, am stuck as mom. I have career goals that are constantly being pushed back. We do not have a support group in family or other parenting friends, I have nobody who is in the same place in life as me and I am so dang lonely... when my husband does go out it's like he forgets that we exist and he stays out as long as he can, which I GET. I feel so resentful, despite knowing that he deserves time away too. I know I am responsible for my own happiness, but what do I do to make myself happy? I'm a SAHM, when my husband is gone I'm stuck at home, my son is a runner so I don't keep the car while hubs is gone for outings... I can't make my own money and I feel like I've become a placeholder for everyone else to come back to. I keep everyone alive and that's just who I am, nothing more. I love my babies and I love my husband, but I feel like running away sometimes so I can feel like a human again. I feel so lost and the depression is taking a toll on my parenting ability and patience. I don't want to resent anyone, does this pass? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2H7xvLc

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