Rant: can we please let our kids fail?!!

I am just so sick of people pressuring me or my kids to perform in everything within normal parameters instead of being allowed to suck or to exceed their peers. It seems to me that the tendency to give all kids an equal shot at live (I do think that's a very good thing) has let to the unrealistic expectation that all kids get the same results in life. Some kids will be plumbers, some kids will be doctors, some will be atlethes, some will be rocket scientists, some will be cleaners or janitors. And that is all fine. We as a society assigned a different value to those jobs, but they all are necessary and valuable, just like every human life is equally valuable while not the same.This rant was brought on by several situations that piss me off:1) I put my oldest in a judo class. It's obvious he sucked at it. His motoric development is definitely somewhere in the lower regions (although not enough to warrant therapy or something, said the person who evaluated him for it, who recommended whole body sports like judo). It's fine that he sucked at it. He liked it, he's getting exercise, he's making friends, he's practicing his motorics, what more can we ask? However his teacher didn't agree. We were approached by the teacher multiple times telling us our kid has no talent. That he'll never win a competition. Who cares?! We're talking 5&6 years olds, really, why is this even an issue we're talking about? Eventually he was put in the b-team, the team that doesn't get to go to the competitions. Which would be absolutely fine, it it weren't that the teacher couldn't hide his disdane for this team while teaching. That's the point we pulled kid out. I remember being in dance class as a 9-11 yo. I sucked. My team mates and teacher often had a good laugh at my expense. And then helped me learn the routine anyway and cheered for me when I finally got it. Which taught me valuable lessons like I can't be good at everything and that's OK. And that trying and work leads to results, even if you have to put in more effort than other because of talent. When did we have this attitude change?2) My kid is 7 yo but reads at 6th grade level. Parents complained about my kid reading thick books at reading time because it makes their kids feel insecure. I mean WTF. Why can't you tell your kid it's OK when someone else is better than them at something! That we each have our own talents and to focus on yours instead of others?3) a kid in my country had a burnout at age 9 beause she had to work too hard to keep up on school. This has let to a public discussion on how much pressure is being put on kids on a young age to preform. I agree that's a bad thing. But now the general consensus seems to be that we should lower the demands. This is not the answer! We shouldn't dumb down education even further!! If a kid can't keep up for whatever reason, they should receive assistance or even be held back a class so they can keep up, but we shouldn't lower the standards so even the slowests can keep up. The problem with this kid was that she was pressured to perform within normal parameters while she couldn't realistically, not that the standards were off.Some kids are late bloomers, some kids don't do well in academics, some do well in school but suck at sports, some are athletic but don't have musical talents, and it's all OK. Dealing with your disappointment over not excelling in something, failing, having people out perform you, it's all part of life. We should teach our kids how to cope instead of not allowing them to fail! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2EN0XUJ