Let’s Talk Transparency With Your Child

Pretend you have a 9 year old daughter in a split household. She’s pretty mentally mature for her age. That’s not my thinking but that’s her mom’s opinion. I think a 9 year old is a 9 year old and still needs to be sheltered from some information.Now let’s pretend there’s some family drama happening. Some pretty horrible things have been said and done but never in front of the kids. Not in our house anyways.To be basic, one party is slandering another party in a very damaging way. Stating mental instability, abuse and making up false statements.Our plan was to deal with this stuff between the adults since it’s an adult situation. Pretty reasonable plan right?We have found out that there has been 100% “transparency” with our 9 year old from her mother and grandmother. So, that means that she’s been fed the same lies and junk that’s been floating around the family.Um, I think that’s wrong. Other people think it’s okay. I’m pretty sure that’s something like emotional or mental abuse but I’m no expert.Her mom thinks it’s okay so, even if it is wrong I really can’t stop her.What do you do? I have no ideas so I’m hoping you’ll lend me some. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2GP95G5