Grandparents who try to parent grandchild...

This is a long one- sorry everyone.TL;DR- my parents think I’m crazy for choosing to not discipline my young child with physical force.So due to some unforeseen circumstances my husband, almost 2 year old and I are living with my parents. Long story short we tried to buy a house, told our landlord we would be out on 12/1 for new tenants, staying in my parents house for a few days until we close. 12/3 rolls around and we lost our financing. Shit. We’ve been here since then. Obviously we’re miserable and while I of course love my parents to the moon and back, they’re making me insane. We’re moving into a rental unit a family member owns on 5/1 and it can’t come soon enough...Now, on to the point of this post...I am a pretty relaxed parent. My son is very free spirited and wild. I allow him to test his own boundaries and let him learn for himself if he should or shouldn’t do something. He’s very high energy and loves to play, explore, and is always into things. Very strong-willed and if he wants it he wants it NOW. It’s exhausting but I wouldn’t change him for anything. My parents think he’s bad. He’s not even two. How can he be bad- he doesn’t know any better yet. We’re working on that obviously.We (my parents and I) got into an argument the other day because my son hit my husband and my husband gently smacked the back of his hand in return and told him not to hit people. My husband and I have since discussed this and agreed that it’s stupid to do that- “here let me hit you to tell you not to hit me”... makes no sense. My dad was PISSED about this. Said it’s bull shit and is completely different. “You have to show the child who’s boss...” “instill a sense of fear into them...” I argued and said “how is it different...” “why would I hit my kid to tell him not to hit me...” etc etc. I don’t want my kid to fear me?? That’s fucking stupid. I’ll go on record to say that I don’t have problems with a parent who chooses to spank- I personally wouldn’t do it but I also won’t talk down to someone for the way they choose to parent their child. What I don’t condone is child abuse, obviously.My question is- what are your opinions on this argument I had with my dad? Mostly just trying to spark a discussion but also curious if I’m in the wrong here- which I don’t think I am. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qdKH9W