Dad checked out of...everything?

I don’t know if this is good here or somewhere else...but I’m kind of desperate. So my boyfriend has been sick a lot over the last year. And he just got sick again this past week and when they did an x ray to make sure it wasn’t pneumonia (he had it bad back in September) they found a nodule on his lung that he has to be seen for.So when he started getting sick this past week, I picked up the slack with the kids. Now, our 11 month old was really sick too. So I was up with him all night for a week, still am...and I had him at he doctors twice and it’s just been hectic with him alone plus I have a 4 year old and full time work (however I ended up taking Tuesday off to take baby to the doctor).Now it doesn’t bother me having to pick up slack because boyfriend is sick. What bothers me is even after he got to feeling better he still just locked himself in the bedroom. He checks out! Like, I can’t do anything without these kids because he has been so on edge he just lays in bed and won’t speak to me. He hasn’t said thank you, he hasn’t done anything. And he’s feeling better...but I get it if he’s freaking out about what they found on his lung...but if you’re going to check out of our life and lie in bed all day at least say thank you. When I speak he yells at me. I can’t talk to him because he told me I have an attitude. And “he’s got too much going on to deal with my attitude”...oh and he also said “just because I yell at you doesn’t mean I’m yelling at you”Sorry this is all over the place. I hate talking to friends and family about our issues because everyone always says “just leave him”. I’m not here for the easy way out...I just don’t even know what to say to him anymore. I’ve been sleeping on the couch because well, he was sick and I didn’t want the baby to wake him up but with him acting like I’m the live in nanny, cook and housekeeping I’ve just kept my happy ass on the couch. I don’t want to be sleeping next to someone who obviously doesn’t want me there...and he hasn’t asked for me to come back in there.I think I just feel unappreciated and unloved. And anytime I try to say anything whether it’s about the kids or dinner or whatever...he just raises his voice at me. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JcY9mv