My son is 1 years old and he loves feeding our dogs. It's not something we encourage but it's often hard to stop him from reaching out or to stop the dogs from snatching something from his hand. The dogs are in no way agressive, but occasionally he's gotten his finger bit when they take something from him and he ends up crying as I'm sure it hurts and is surprising, despite no blood or broken bones.Now, my reaction, mostly as a figure of speech and just what comes out of me naturally, is to say something like, "Oh buddy, you're okay..." (EDIT: Felt I should add I say this while hugging him and kissing his finger.) However, my wife has gotten upset with me more than once and says we have to say something like, "Yes, I know it hurts, you can cry, I understand how much it hurts." I don't know if she got this out of a parenting book or what, and I have no problem with her saying whatever she wants to him, but I'm getting tired of being chastised and made to feel like I'm going to ruin him for not legitimizing his emotions, as she explained it.I'm just wondering, is she being overzealous? Am I going to ruin him with this manner of speech? It also makes me wonder about when he's older when, yes, I probably would tell him to toughen up a bit so as not to raise a crybaby, but that would be way down the line. I know I am going to be told to talk with her, but in general this sort of thing ends up being a fight with no resolution and it's nice to hear outside perspectives. Thanks. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HieOIL
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