Father Seeking Advice About Estranged 16yo Daughter

Hopefully this is ok to post here. This is a long, confusing story so I will try to shorten it up and not be confusing. After years of Google searches and asking friends and family I just don't know what to do, if anything. So I created a throwaway account and here I am. OK here it goes.I have 15yo and 12 yo daughters. I divorced their mother and moved out of state 11 years ago. There was an attempt to maintain contact but I failed. I attempted to reestablish contact 6 years ago and was told the children (10 and 6) did not want to. Went to court, ordered to attend reunification counseling. I own my mistakes and am willing to do whatever is necessary but all attempts to begin this process over nine months failed. On advice of others I backed off and waited until the kids got older. 2 years ago I found my 14yo on social media and reached out. She was very receptive and we were both very happy to be talking again. I told her about her sisters she didn't know she had, she was so excited. Something I did not know is her mother did not know about this social media account or that we had been talking. I told her she needs to come clean and when she did her mother flipped, which is understandable. But my daughter's attitude completely changed after that. We talked on the phone after that but it was very strained because she had to have it on speaker phone. After a couple of weeks she decides she no longer wants to take my calls. I decide to take it back to court. Then I get a letter from my 14yo telling me what a horrible person I am and that she no longer considers me her dad. So court orders counseling but the way the order was worded allowed their mother a loop hole and it is not happening. I have been calling them every week or two for over a year and they won't take my calls. Both my daughters now address me by my first name instead of dad in thank you cards and money requests. My lawyer says go back to court but I am done with that, it has cost me $20k so far with zero results. I think the hating me thing is just her trying to keep mom happy, avoid the stress. I think the younger one is following big sis's lead.So here is my questionable idea I am seeking advice on. My daughter has another "secret" account on social media. Should I reach out to her again and just keep it between us? I know this isn't the "right" thing to do but I just want to talk to my kid. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2HV6Y4F