So a couple months ago, my husband let our 3 1/2 year old watch 'The Good Dinosaur.' She freaked out when the dad dinosaur, well, you know.In general she's pretty resilient to fantasy peril (Nemo's family, the king and queen in Frozen) but maybe that's because it usually happens off screen and isn't anyone fault, which was not the case in that movie.Anyway, a few nights later, at bedtime, she asked me where my parents were. I had to awkwardly explain that my parents were dead (My Mom died when my daughter was 20 months. She has no memory of ever meeting her Nana.) Well, she lost her shit. Sobbing, asking me what 'dead' meant ("You mean your nose doesn't breathe? Your eyes never see? When will you die? Do children die?").I tried to answer gently but honestly. Even so, she had a breakdown at daycare, because she was so sad that I can't see my mommy anymore. Luckily, we warned them it might come up, so her favorite teacher was able to help her calm down.But wait, it gets better. My husband's grandfather died. I wanted to stay home with our daughter, but my husband wanted us to travel to the funeral. His sister has a daughter a few months older than ours and since she was attending the (open casket) wake and funeral, he insisted that we could.You see where this is going. Every week since, we have the "what happens when you die/I don't want you to die/why do children die" talk. It's been six months. My heart breaks that she has this angst.Do I get her into therapy? Who even does therapy for preschool kids pondering mortality? Will it just get better on it's own?TL; DR - Due to Pixar and great-grandfathers demise, my daughter brings up her own and our death on a weekly basis. Should I get a therapist? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pAi2wA
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