Parents with kids that used to be high maintenance, and now play independently - any tips?

I’ve specified parents who turned kids around from being unable to play by themselves and demand a lot of attention and now don’t, purely because I know we all want to help and feel we have something positive to add, but I need examples that have been tested in the field with difficult kids!! Please don’t take offence.So, newly four year old girl. Only child (and will stay that way for better or worse). Super verbal from early on and will not stop talking from morning til she passes out. Loves to interact with adults, has gotten a lot of attention (again for better or worse!!) because she’s an only child but also because shes been so interactive from very early - adults around her get sucked into her vortex of non stop games and bossiness! She’s lovely but damn! She’s non stop intense and demands interaction and playing and conversation. Even when she’s on the toilet she’s yelling to us in the kitchen about what she’s doing or what are we doing or what she wants for lunch.We have instituted quiet time in the middle of the day in her room by herself with some success. But if we are around we feel like we are constantly saying “no I’m busy” or “I’ll be there when I’m finished in ten minutes” about a million times a day. Obviously this is a long game and consistency will win out eventually. But how do we not lose our minds (any more).We are so jealous of the parents that say their kids will often play in their room by themselves for 30 mins or even 10 minutes and often from much earlier age!! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2G0HRA2