I told my husband yesterday, thinking he would feel the way I do. But so far he's been acting really excited. He said he'd support me no matter what I choose. I've been suspicious for weeks, but have been too afraid to get a pregnancy test (we're going to get one together tonight). I didn't want to tell him until I was 100% sure. But with my kidney acting up and discussing the possibility of another surgery for alternate medical equipment, I told him the surgery might have to be put off if I'm pregnant.Because we already have 2 boys (4.5 & 1.5 yo) I thought he would be against having another baby so soon, which was the main cause of my anxiety to just get the test over with. In my head I'm thinking, abortion. But with him acting so excited, it's hard for me to not be excited, too. I'm so torn. I want to make the "right" decision, but I also want to have another baby. However I'm only 24 so I have plenty of time (my mom had me at 30 and my sister at 35) but my husband is 41, and definitely won't be in his prime in 10 years. I want him to be able to enjoy his sons while he's still young enough to keep up with them.I don't really have anyone else to talk to. My mother will just give me an earful of shit. My dad encouraged me to get an abortion when I was pregnant with my first son at 19 (not my husband's biological son) so idk how he would react to the situation now.For those who have had an abortion or went through one with their partner, what was it like? I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks, so I imagine it would be similar to that? They give you the pill and let nature take its course, only going inside of you if the placenta doesn't come out intact (mine was intact when I miscarried) and there's pieces left inside? How did it make you feel emotionally? Do you regret it?I just, idk. I need someone who can be objective to talk to I guess. And getting this off of my chest felt great. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2oeEb2C
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