Our daughter [9] constantly complains about everything. When she has to get out of bed to go to school, she says she hates school and doesn’t want to get up, doesn’t want to get dressed. When she comes home, she complains about lunch, says she it’s gross and she won’t eat it, complains about her day in school, how the others are stupid, how her teachers are mean. We ask her what happened and she just remains silent, sitting there pouting. Or she says we’re stupid and mean. Then she complains about her homework, how it’s too much and she doesn’t have time for herself. Complains she didn’t understand it and when we try to help her and explain things again she says it’s stupid and unfair. Usually, she’ll start crying and when she’s done, she’ll finish her homework. She spends twice as much time on complaining and crying as on her actual homework. She complains about her friends not having time in the afternoon to play with her. She complains about visiting her cousins (whom she likes a lot) on the weekend because she “never has time to do her own stuff”? What stuff, I ask. “I don’t know. My stuff.” She’s constantly bored but never wants to do anything we suggest, but rather hangs around in the house. In the evening, I say to her: it’s already late, you can watch your show or read a book. She throws a fit, says it’s unfair and ends up doing neither and goes to sulk in her bedroom. My wife and I are really trying to support her, to encourage her to meet friends, to help her with homework, to work out difficulties with her teachers (there actually aren’t any). But she keeps on throwing fits and berating us almost every single day. We’re exhausted, and it’s becoming more and more clear that her behavior is creating a toxic environment for the rest of her family, for us and her siblings [F11, M2]. We’re already considering sending her to boarding school to ease the tension. Any suggestions on how to improve our situation are highly welcome. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2GoltMw
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