Hey everyone,I'm a father to an awesome 3 year old. I also have an 8 month old daughter. He has always been a HUGE daddy's boy. Like BIG TIME. Basically since he was born. I was off the first year of his life and we have always had an amazing, special relationship. I went back to work after a year and he's never had any separation issues before or resentment. I was worried the birth of our daughter would cause problems, and again, he was great. He's loving, kind and gentle with his sister. He can be possessive of me when I get home after work, but other than that he's fine.Lately this has all changed. He's become aggressive, violent, erratic and difficult. He won't listen to any directions, constantly just dissolves into screaming fits, and hitting and yelling for no reason at all. We'll be playing at the park and out of nowhere he'll start throwing sand or mud at me and screaming and nothing can calm him, we usually end up going home in tears.At home he is the same. Bed times and naps are a nightmare, he won't listen, won't read books, won't go to sleep. He listens and behaves for his mother a million times better. Sure he's been more difficult lately for her, but nothing like me (She's at home with him and our daughter).Last night it just came to a head. My wife was out and baby was sleeping, it took 1.5 hours of non-stop fighting and arguing to get him into bed. He just screamed and hit and yelled and nothing I did worked. I tried to stay calm, didn't matter, tried to talk to him calmly and it's like I didn't exist. Tried getting angry, he laughed. Time outs, leaving him in his room screaming...nothing worked until he literally passed out from exhaustion. I've just reached my breaking point with him and I feel lost like our connection is gone and I dont' know how to handle him anymore.He seems like he is in constant fear of me leaving. He is always repeating "what are we going to do now?" "I want to play, i want to play." "One more game, one more game" endlessly. On weekends, at night, at parks, WHILE we are playing. More and more I leave for work with him crying. Nothing seems to help.I had to quit two classes we were in because he simply stopped participating, just ran around, would leave the class, and I've completely lost the ability to control him. He's more agressive towards his sister, and my ability to even go near or play with her. It feels like everything is unraveling.I've never had problems with him before, it's always been my wife who has because he only wants me when I'm home. Sure he's gone through phases like any kid, but nothing like this. My wife is out again tonight and i'm genuinely scared of what is going to happen when i try and put him to sleep.Sorry for the rant, i'm just feeling hopeless and would love any advise or tips from other people who've gone through something similar. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tThWQ2
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