Grandparents treat cousins unequally.

I'm hoping there are others out there who have dealt with this. My parents shower my niece with gifts every holiday, pay for travel, classes, new furniture, you name it. Conversely when they come to visit us they don't even expect to pay for their own meals when they ask to go out. My son is given gifts, but there is a definite difference in price/amount.Most recently they traveled to us for my son's birthday, and gave our niece a gift at the end of the party. He is too young to notice this difference in treatment, but he will someday.Honestly it's really frustrating. We are comfortable but not wealthy (they act as though they think we are and I have no idea where that impression came from) and it would be awesome to be able to have some help paying for a class now and then or even for them to just not expect us to bankroll them when they visit.Part of me wants to be honest and say "Hey we heard you pay for this class for [cousin] and we would love to enroll our son in a class like that too", but at the end of the day I know that isn't the right answer. I absolutely do need to confront them about the difference in gift giving, because someday my son will be old enough to see that his cousin gets all these things he doesn't.Has anyone dealt with grandparents treating cousins differently? How did you set boundaries?I just want to protect my son, my own grandparents definitely had a favorite cousin and I felt such compounded rejection because of it (my parents knew, complained to us about it, but never actually did anything). Please help, TIA! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2scm5O0