So I have a question for other stay at him parents. (Sorry kind of long bare with me)I am currently a stay at home mom to a 4 year old wild child and a 10month old (who is currently teething and never sleeping) they are both boys. My DH works up to 40hours a weeks depending on the week. I am the one who gets up in the night where he sleeps and I am the one who gets up every morning at 4am with the kids where he will usually sleep in or go shower and make his coffee and hide in the basement. I do all the baths, dinners well all the meals and snacks. I cut all the nails bring the kids to the park and any other activity like crafts etc.I clean throughout the day after them. Picking up messes constantly etc. I do the dishes everyday unless I'm sick . DH will clean up after dinner and will do the laundry on the weekend . (Keep in mind he only does the laundry because he wants his clothes folded a certain way and must be perfect and I refuse to do them like that. (Think store front folding)) He will also do a full house clean on the weekend as well. Both bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming etc while I watch the kids.So he does clean a lot. I will give him that. I have offered multiple times to swap on the weekend where he watches the kids and I clean but he never takes me up on it.So my issues is he constantly calls me lazy. Amd well useless. Apparently other stay at home parents can clean the house and keep it spotless while watching their kids. He shouldn't be doing the laundry every weekend and me leave it all on him. His mom, grandma etc were able to raise kids, work and keep the house spotless etc so why can't I.It's gotten to the point we argue every morning. As he gets up and gets in the shower and i get up and nurse the baby, gather the diapers, get the kids dressed. Make breakfast for kids and a coffee for me . If I want a shower I have to either ask have him to watch the kids or wait until they are asleep and bring a monitor in with me.Like I mentioned as well he doesn't get up in the night. If I wake him he just gets pissed at the kids and ends up yelling so I just do it. So in over the last 4 years I have not slept through the night once. Not once. My now 4 years old just started sleeping all night about 4-5months ago now but will still get up on occasion. My 10 months old gets up anywhere from 2-6 times a night (more now due to teething). I don't have anyone to babysit them family included so I don't get breaks and never ever sleep in. My only breaks are when I had surgery to get my gallbladder removed and when I had my second child , that's it. To top it off (sorry tmi ) my menstrual after this baby are so bad I have to take medicine so I don't bleed too much and end up in the hospital.Dh can be a great guy and Dad but I am so tired of being put down that I'm useless and lazy he has even on the occasion called me a useless fat cow (which breaks my heart and causes me to have trouble eating for a few days)Sorry for the rant. I just want to know if it is just me and Im just lazy. Do other stay at home parents have spotless homes and well mannered kids. Do you get breaks? Ever? I thought of making a post on how are 4years olds supposed to act because that's another hot topic as he thinks our child should act older then he is (repeats himself, makes faces when getting into trouble etc when I think its normal behaviour )So are there other parents like me or do you do things differently so you get things done. Maybe a trick or two. Any suggestions in getting DH to understand I don't just sit around on my phone all day and I'm only usually on it when I nurse. I'm just always so tired and have no energy and well can get pretty depressed. There is so much more I could write but this has gotten long. Any advice or tricks and tips would be greatly appreciated. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2o05Ja4
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