My husband and I [30sM/F, married ten years] disagree on how to handle our daughter's [9F] problems.

My husband and I do not agree on how to handle our daughter's problems. My husband prefers to "put it in perspective" as he says, and get her to see that the issue isn't as big of a problem as she thought it was. I think that sometimes that works well, but a lot of times it comes off as dismissive. Like he's saying the problem isn't a real problem, so there's no reason to be upset, implying that if she is upset, she's wrong for feeling that way. I prefer to at least acknowledge her feelings, even if I think the problem doesn't seem like that big of a deal, because it's a big enough deal to her that she felt she needed to mention it. I just don't feel like my husband's method works that well, especially since our daughter is getting older and has sometimes argued with him that she does have a real problem, and that my husband just doesn't get it.My husband and I had another disagreement about this over my daughter's issues with her long term substitute teacher. The teacher isn't doing anything really against any rules, but she does sound very unpleasant in general, and I wouldn't enjoy being in her class. I told my daughter that the teacher did sound very unpleasant to be around, and that some people just have issues like that, maybe the teacher hates her job, maybe she has other issues going on, maybe she just isn't a nice person. There isn't really any way to find out what's wrong with the teacher, and there isn't really anything my daughter can do to make her be better. I reminded her that her regular teacher would be back soon, and she would never have to see the substitute again.My husband said I shouldn't have told her that, that I should have assured her that the teacher was doing her best for the class, that it was hard to take over someone else's class, and that our daughter should cut the teacher some slack, and try to find some common ground with the teacher. He also said that kids often exaggerate problems with teachers, so we shouldn't assume that there is anything wrong with the teacher based on just what our daughter said.I completely disagree with my husband, our daughter is too old to suddenly change her mind and believe that the substitute is a nice person and good teacher deep down, just because we tell her so. It's true that kids sometimes exaggerate, but she likes her regular teacher, so she doesn't have anything against teachers in general. Even if she is exaggerating or misinterpreted what the teacher did, she clearly doesn't like her already, and it isn't like I tried to get the teacher fired or told my daughter to skip class, just based on what she told me. I don't think there is anything wrong with acknowledging her feelings and that some people maybe just aren't that great, especially since she only has another week left with this person. I think my husband's strategy can be dismissive and unrealistic, and I'm afraid he will alienate her.What do you think about this? Do you think there is any way we can compromise on how we deal with our daughter's problems?tl;dr: My husband and I have different strategies for dealing with our young daughter's problems. Is there a way to compromise? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2nMYelA