Hello,I have a 3 year old boy with mild autism, he's still mostly non-verbal, he understands a little and he's usually a happy sweet kid.These pasts months though he has decided to target his younger sibling for some kicking, slapping or pushing.If she's walking around the house, he'll look for her and push her from behind, just cause. He slaps her on the face if he is just walking around and happens to run into her, I've caught him kicking her whenever he wants something from her or for no apparent reason.One time, he pushed her from behind and she fell and hit the corner of the wall, it looked like she almost got her head open. It's scary. My daughter knows he likes to hit her, so whenever she sees him coming to her, she goes down on the floor and curls up in a ball.It's getting progressively worse. Today we were downstairs and we were going back upstairs for some snacks. I went up first and waited for them to come up, my daughter was closer to me, then out of nowhere my son races upstairs, gets in front of his sister and kicks her off the stairs.I caught her, but I almost fell downstairs with her.If we say no with a firm voice he knows it, I can see it in his eyes, he at least understands he's gotta stop what he's doing. But he goes back to it as soon as he enters another room.Im tired. I watch them like a hawk because I don't want my daughter to get hurt. He's a solid boy and he's very strong and quick on his feet. My daughter is short and skinny, she tries to play with him, sometimes they do play together and it's nice, I just don't understand this impulse he has to hit her or hurt her.I treat them both equally, my husband and I take turns taking them out by themselves so they have alone time with me or my husband. We hug them, kiss them, play with them, read them book together. If anything, he gets more attention than she does.My daughter loves her brother, she asks for him and cries when he's not coming with us. But soon she learns he kind of "hates" her.I don't know how to solve this problem. It's very tiring, I'm always afraid he's gonna hurt her and if this continues as he gets older it'd be harder to control it. I get kicked, punched, slapped and hit on the head with his head when he's having a meltdown. It feels unfair my daughter has to put up with this stuff, living in a house where she gets hit just for existing. I just don't know how to reason with him.Edit: He goes to school half days for four days a week. He gets speech for 30 minutes every week. After he aged out the Early Intervention program, the 18+ hours of ABA he used to get stopped. We are currently on every possible waiting list to get ABA or any services for him, but it looks like it takes about 18 months to get some, unless you pay for private therapy, which we can't afford. He has an IEP and we have a meeting with the school again to let them know he need more support, half and hour of speech weekly is a joke and we need an OT and ABA. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2pRrtX1
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