I am nearing the end of a divorce where my wife took our then 3 yr old to Germany, refused to return, and cut off all contact with me. When I sent gifts for my daughter birthday they were never given to her. I know my daughter has heard bad things about me that are not true. I wasn't able to see my daughter for almost 3 years (long story. Lots of false accusations, but no actual history of violence or any criminality). Contact has been re-established. My daughter is now 6 years old. I travel to Germany from the US every month to spend a couple days with her. I believe I will be given full custody eventually. It looks like her mother has Borderline Personality Disorder, but I'm not an expert.I don't want my daughter to think her Mom is sick or mentally ill. I think that's a negative stigma, especially because mental illness can be genetic.My daughter is also close to her Grandparents on mother's side. They have all told her bad things about me that are not true (ex. I was born without a heart).Please don't get hung up on legalities. My ex was manipulative and clever and this post isn't about legalities.It is hard for me to think of what to say to my daughter that doesn't include calling her Mother a liar or saying her mother is sick.I don't plan on bringing any of this up anytime soon but I want to be prepared for questions from my daughter. For example: How come I don't see you very often? Why doesn't Mommy like you? Why am I moving back to the US to live with you? If Mommy loves me why would she keep me from seeing my Dad, who I love and I like to spend time with? She must be confused and conflicted.It's hard to explain to a kid that the people closest to her that love and care for her have been sabotaging her behind her back (by trying to erase her loving father from her life). via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2o9v7ej
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