Change the phrase...

Until recently I would often say to my kids “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.” A friend changed the phrasing and I think it is an important change that I’m sharing with every parent I know.“You get what you get and you appreciate it!”I’m trying to teach my kids to be appreciative of having a cup, not focusing on whether they got the blue one or red one. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32EZ3mD

Fiancé [25F] is going to leave me [29M].

I’m going to try to make this as concise as possible.My fiancé and I have 2 daughters together, 3 and 2. We’ve been together for about 5.5 years. My fiancé stays home with them while I work full time.She’s been kind of depressed and saying things like she wants her own life back. She’s just not happy, period. She’s always angry or sad. She hates staying home with them 24/7, so we agreed that she should go back to work.Well, I guess she took that as “I should just leave” too.She’s been saying comments like as soon as she gets a full time job and her own car, that she’s moving out. I know she doesn’t care about me. She probably wants to relive her youth and everything that she missed out on. (She didn’t say that, but I’m guessing.)We’ve already agreed on 50/50 custody. I make close to 3 times what she would make, so she knows she can get decent child support to be able to live on her own without me.I also know that she’ll be living her life while I have the kids 50%, and that kills me. It makes me sick and I can’t sleep.Is there any saving this? I don’t want a split family. I still want to marry her, even after this, but she doesn’t want that. She just wants to explore life on her own. I guess I’m weighing her down. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2I68MsU

Is 12/13 the age where boys made a 180 with their friends?

My 12yo has known most of his friends since elementary school. He has been best friends with one boy since pre-k. Totally utterly inseparable. All of a sudden, his best friend has be MIA. I asked my son about his best friend and he says he doesn't talk to him anymore. Nothing bad happened. Ironic part is that they play on the same sports team, are in the same classes and have overlapping friends. They went from best friends to acquaintances. Is this a dynamic of middle school boy friendships? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2T8cKYo

How to get help for my suspected autistic baby?

Hi all. My fourth and youngest child is 16 months old. I have always known he was a little different. As a newborn he never cried and slept through the night almost instantly. My family and I are now noticing some “quirks” he has.He is distant and in his own world. Even though I spend every waking moment with him he won’t respond to me or seek me. He doesn’t notice if someone else is looking after him.He is starting to walk but he never crawled. He doesn’t like having his hands on the ground. He walks on his tip toes.He hasn’t said anything close to a word yet.He will ball/scrunch up his hands repeatedlyHe has to touch a room before entering it.He only eats smooth porridge and yoghurt. He HATES eatingI had a health visitor come and she said they will give him a hearing test. My son does react to noises and I think a hearing problem wouldn’t account for his lack of interest in people. I just think it is autism but no one will help me. My niece’s boyfriend is an ABA tutor but the youngest he has worked with is 3 so I don’t know if he could help us, they also live 2 hrs away. I just really want the earliest intervention possible because it’s clear something is off. Any advice very appreciated. Thank you via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2T8kvxp

My son's girlfriend is living with us

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Birthday invitation gone wrong.

I am friendly with one of the moms at my child's school. She invited us to a movie on the actual birthday of one of her youngest. There is a movie theater really close to both our houses and she mentioned taking the kids there. A few days later I got a text from her with a more formal invitation, the name of the movie, the time and the names of the kids that were attanding. My kid was excited as they are good friends.On the day of, we get ready, and go. My child is super cranky, but I feel like we have already committed to this activity and practically carry him part of the way.We arrive at the movie theater and there is no sign of the party. After some frantic texting it turns out that the woman who invited us took her kids to the movie theater across town, the furthest possible location from where we are currently and impossible to make to without missing half the movie. She did not at any point mention it while texting me the night before or in the morning of. I let her know which theater we are at only to get a very non chalant response "Oh, my kids will be very disappointed they didn't get to see your son".Like WTF lady? What about actually providing the right address? Or at least the name of the movie theater. What about recognizing that we went out of our way to make your kids birthday special and now I to deal with a moody kid that wants to know where his friends are?I'm annoyed. And I don't want to go the polite civil route. So I just ignored her last text.I don't think it was mean hearted or intentional. However as far as communication goes, this was a major gaffe. What hurt me and yes, I am hurt, was the disregard to consequences for son and I. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2vsdsqf

The egg..

Everyday I wake up with a goal in mind. And almost everyday I wake up telling myself to boil an egg Incase I get hungry. That egg has yet to get boiled... I get so lost cleaning taking care of my 6 month old that at the end of the day I still wish I would have boiled that egg.... just a little funny story I know it happened to a lot of parents via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2T4T7QQ