Stay At Home Dads. You fellas out there?

Hey there fellow SAHDs. How many of you guys are in this sub? This is my first post here.I got forced into it because I got sick. My whole career was ruined. Since I was the one at home recovering I ended up becoming the primary caretaker for the kids. My wife now has a full time job and supports us. I still work for Uber on the weekends and at nights and dabble in some side work to pull in close to 25% to 50% what my wife does while also ensuring our kids stay out of daycare, which is a big goal of ours.​So how did you become a SAHD? Is it everything you hoped it was? Do you experience the "you're a slob who doesn't support your family" stigma like I do? I'm curious what you've experienced, good, bad, or ugly. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2P7Iblf

My ex didn't take our son trick or treating

I got my son on his birthday (last week) so his dad got him for Halloween.I texted and called a couple times for two days beforehand. He ignored it. Finally I called his roommate, who is good friends with both of us, to make sure my son was ready for trick or treating. He was looking forward to it. I wanted to make sure he had whatever he needed and there were no excuses not to take him. The roommate told me he was good to go, and the dad called me back after to say that yes, he's taking him to trick or treat.Today I got him back and asked if he had fun trick or treating. He said "no, daddy said to wait" (to be fair he might have meant 'too late' as he has trouble with pronunciation). I looked at his dad who said "no, he said he didn't want to go!"I was devastated. More than my son was even. Angry. Guilty. I still am. After everything I should know better than to trust my ex, even with stuff for our son. But I did and my son missed out on something I can't redo. I can (and will) give him candy, but I can't give him that experience.He could have called me if he didn't want to take him. Maybe this is stupid and maybe I shouldn't be upset. But I really truly hate this feeling. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qnGgKt

*sigh* so this gem just happened with my 6 year old. I swear hes not usually this dense.

DS (Dear Son)- mom why is there mcdonalds in the fridge?Me- because we had mcdonalds last night after trick or treating.DS- but whyMe- because it was late and I was tired.DS- why is there still mcdonalds in the fridge.Me- left overs.DS -but why is there McDonald's left in the fridge.Me- sigh did you eat all of your mcdonalds last night?DS- No...Me- then thats why there is mcdonalds in the fridge. Can I go back to using the bathroom alone now?DS- ok. runs off via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2CZ61YK

I rocked my 2yr old to sleep. I didn’t think I’d miss doing that.

I just put my daughter down for her nap. She was so cuddly and wouldn’t let me go. Normally we read a couple books and I lay next to her, holding hands or rubbing her tummy. It’s generally very sweet.But today she asked me to rock her. I felt her fall asleep in my arms. It’s only been a few months that she shifted to falling asleep in bed instead of being rocked. Let me tell you guys, it felt so nice!What a reminder that as they grow independent, which is fun and exciting, they leave stuff behind. It was like having my little baby back for ten whole minutes and it was magical.I’m full of love and just wanted to share with folks who get it. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Dh1guS

Teacher called about DD's behavior, but she had never had a issue in the 10 years she's been in school.

So DD is 14 and in 9th grade. She has been a model student since pre-k. Never an issue EVER. Always good grades, awards, you name it.They had sort of like a "meet the teacher" night which i attended a couple weeks ago and met 3 of my daughters teachers whom told me she is an excellent student and her grades are above average for the class, they only had good things to say.Now on to the problem. Since the beginning DD had told me about her "cosmetology/ woodworking" teacher. The problem started when DD corrected him a couple times. Now she doesn't usually do this at all but he was basically making statements like "you need to wash your hair daily to keep it healthy" she mentioned that that actually wasn't true and he seemed to have an issue with her after that point. He would keep trying to correct her on things about her own hair ( DD has thick curly hair, as do i ). Now to make more light of why this was an issue. He is a bald white guy, teaching about hair but was generalizing the information for specifically straight hair. The class is pretty diverse.He would call her out on not braiding cornrows/french braids properly (DD had been braiding hair since 7 years old) I've seen her work. Then when he'd get called out for picking on her he would change his tune and then use her braided mannequin head as the class example of it being done properly.She also had an interim report card and got high averages from every class except his, she asked why and he said something about maybe she didn't hand in all her work, she went over everything and in fact never missed any work and even got perfect on all tests and assignments. He just said "he'd look into it".So today he gives me a call to tell me he has an issue with her behavior. She called me herself just before he did and was in tears because he yelled at her. He feels like she doesn't follow his instructions.Im not sure what to do. No other teacher has an issue with her at all. And this is the first time one has. This is also the first teacher that she felt has been wrong about something and has spoken up.I have a meeting on Monday and I'm not sure how to approach this.Any ideas where i should start? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2P4PvxC

Sick kids on Halloween, a heartwarming update

Thank you to everyone who gave me a great advice on what to do about my sick 5 and 2 year old and healthy 3 year old on Halloween night. I don't know when my kids matured so much but they had me in tears last night.As it got closer to trick or treating time, the kids all got excited and put on their costumes. I was eyeing them warily and thinking about doing "ok just a few houses, sanitize hands, then we go home and rest" plan. It was especially unnerving that the five year old's costume was a full body suit, white unicorn costume. She hadn't had diarrhea in like 6 hours at that point, but still a risky costume given the situation.My five year then old said, "Mama, I don't know if I'll be well enough for trick or treating." Well enough, like a little old lady instead of a five year old.I was still staring at my five year old reeling from this mature observation when my three year old said, "Actually, Emily, we can play that game at home! We can play that game here! I'll play with you!"They then played trick or treat at our door for like 30 minutes, taking turns ringing the bell and giving each other candy from our candy bowl. The two year old was especially pumped because he always wants to repeatedly ring our door bell and we usually don't let him. When my husband got home he offered to take the three year old trick or treating but she said she wanted to "Stay and play with Emily and Owen because they don't feel good."I then announced that the candy witch was going to visit our house to leave a special treat for us but that they had to go play in the girls' room because the witch didn't want them to see the surprise (thanks /u/SolidBones for the idea!). My husband and I set up a little scavenger hunt. They had an awesome time doing the scavenger hunt and following the clues to the candy, and in typical kid fashion the fact that the candy in the witch's cauldron was the same candy we were handing out and the same cauldron they had seen earlier did not bother them in the slightest.It was the sweetest thing ever. Seeing them mature into such considerate, loving siblings shines a whole new light on the past years of chaos, hitting, and screaming.Also my Halloween ended with this conversation:Me: Ok, good night girls, sleep tight!Three year old: Mama, I can't sleep. I'm worried a spooky thing will come and say boo. A spooky ghost will come and look in my window, and say . .. Boo. And a spooky witch will come and look in my window, and say . . .boo. And a spooky skeleton will come, and look in,Me: You don't have to worry about that Hazel. All the spooky things have gone to. . .Three year old: Wait, Mama, I wasn't finished. And a spooky skeleton will come, and look in my window, and say . . . Boo. And a spooky pumpkin will come, and look in my window, and say . . . Boo. And a spooky . .Five year old: Don't worry we'll just tell them to go to bed.Three year old: *exaggerated sigh* Ok but tell them I don't want them to say boo.Me: Ok I will. Goodnight. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2AFQqvT

My friend came to visit my baby with hand foot and mouth and I am fuming!

I feel so bad and conflicted but a dear friend came to visit me and my new baby (6 months old) to stay for a few days with her own daughter. Turns out her daughter had hand, foot and mouth disease about a week before, and my friend herself just started having sores two days before coming! She had sores all over her face and hands when she showed up. She didn't mention it before coming. I was kind of stunned because if she had told me beforehand, I would have told her not to come (even though I was really looking forward to her visit). It's not a serious disease but seems very painful and causes fever and blisters. I don't want my 6 months old to suffer if I can help it. Moreover if she got it, my daughter would likely be excluded from daycare, which means having to take days off work, which is a huge pain for me as my husband is travelling right now, and the disease lasts up to ten days... I can't believe she was so flippant about it, especially since she has a young baby herself. I asked her not to touch the baby and tried to clean everything after her daughter, toys and stuff. But it put a strain on the visit, as I was pretty mad that she put me in the very uncomfortable position of having to be a good host while being shocked that she cared so little about my daughters well being. To make things worse I am kind of a people pleaser and have a hard time expressing negative feelings. I also felt that I couldn't possibly send her back after she showed up and didn't want to create a tensed ambiance between us by speaking up. Now she is gone and I feel very angry and terrified that my baby is going to be sick and covered in sores. Am I overreacting? Did your kids get hand foot and mouth? How bad was it? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Ru2YMb