I'm beginning to think my 5 year old has ODD. And it should have been looked into long ago, but her old pede brushed it off.

My 5 year old daughter has always been difficult, especially compared to her siblings.From birth, she was very demanding and needy. She's been my only child to straight up refuse to sleep alone as an infant. I tried for two weeks straight, and nothing that I did helped; and I got many recommendations on how to get your baby to sleep alone. She slept in bed with me for 14 months before her aunt sleep trained her when she spent a few nights there.She has always had explosive anger and meltdowns. Asking the smallest thing, being sent to time out, or something not going her way results in a total meltdown. She will scream, thrash, kick her feet against the floor and her bedroom door. She'll pull her hair, hit herself, run and slam herself into the wall if put in timeout.This can go on for thirty minutes. Any attempt to calm her down makes it worse.. This is an every day occurrence. Every. Single. Day. My husband and I are exhausted and frazzled.When she was 3, I took her to her previous pede and told her about my concerns, and she replied that it was normal and to take parenting classes. Since I worked, I did reading instead and tried to apply what I read. Nothing changed. I went back when she was a bit older, and was once again told it was normal, so I decided to see if she would outgrow it.And nothing has changed. If anything, it's become worse. She has become actively defiant, straight up saying no or she doesn't want to, no matter how small the request is. She will look right at us and so what we just told her isn't allowed. This morning it was after being told twice that she can't jump rope in the house. She looked right at my husband and did it anyway, got sent to her room, thus triggering her second meltdown in less than an hour. She will try to annoy or anger us, and watch for our reactions. She doesn't follow rules, despite most of them having been in effect her entire life.We took her to her new pede in November (we moved) and he originally went with ADHD and was going to start her on meds in December. At that next appointment, he decided he wanted her to be further evaluated and she goes to Children's Hospital Behavioral Clinic next month. She also has an intake for therapy tomorrow.Now that these things are finally being looked at, I'm frustrated that her old pede brushed everything off and that by her refusing to look into it, she's had to struggle this whole time when she could have gotten help the first time...I hate seeing her struggle. When she's calm, she is the most loving, sweetest little thing ever. She loves drawing us pictures and is proud of many things that she does. She loves horses and anime and loves watching Fruits Basket and Yu Yu Hakusho with me.I just want to be able to help her. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Vmfwe5