My 11yo daughter refusing to move into my partners house

I am really struggling here and this decision is causing me a lot of anxiety so am looking for someone who has possibly been in the same boat.My (36f) lease is due to end in Feb, I'd really like us to move in with my partner. It would help me so much financially and also the driving backwards and forwards to each others houses is getting exhausting. I also want to live with him the decision is not purely financial.The problem is my 11 yo old daughter ( I share her 50/50 with her Dad. I have tried to bring it up with her loosely a few times but took her out for lunch yesterday to havr a serious talk. Firstly she just flat out refused to talk and would not answer any of my questions and just looked out the window, she ended up saying she would talk about it in the car. So we get in the car and I try and bring it up again, I'm being as calm and understanding as possible. She just bursts into tears and says no I don't want to but it's not like I have a choice anyway. She does not like my partner, there is no reason for it she just chooses not to like him. Or she says he is fine, she just does not like him staying the night. She said I don't mind if he stays for dinner and then goes home. I think this has something to do with her thinking we are having sex, which we don't do when I have her. She also says things like he's taken you away from me and we aren't as close anymore. This is also not true as I always try and do things just her and I. Even when we have the day together I suggest a whole bunch of things for us to do but all she wants to do is play on her computer games.I know this is very hard for her and it breaks my heart and fills me with constant guilt and anxiety, but I'm at a complete loss. Do I allow her to make this decision for me, obviously she means the world to me and her happiness has always been my number one priority but I just don't know what to do. I'm terrified if I move she will say she wants to live with her Dad full time. Do I just move and deal with things as they come. I knew it would never be easy but I'm so scared of emotionally damaging her.I also want to be able to give her a better life and as it stands I can't do that because all my money goes on rent and utilities.If anyone else has had any similar experiences I would be so grateful for any advise. He has no children so she wouldn't be competing with anyone, she would have her own room. She is almost 12 and moody all the time with I assume hormones etc so it's all very bad timing.I have suggested therapy, she flat out refuses this saying it's weird and would never go. I have even recently tried bribing her to go.Sometimes I feel like a terrible mother and think it would just be easier to end the relationship. I just want some happiness and stability in my life. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2rQirPN