Hi there,My husband and I are parents to a 10 month old boy. We live in a fairly large city but do not have family or friends in the area. I headed to NextDoor to try to connect with a couple babysitters we could use to get a much needed date night.Enter Sara's mother. She responded to my post saying her 15 year old daughter is an honor student with much younger siblings and plenty of experience. I met them for coffee which went great, and saturday was her first time babysitting for us. She agreed to come over from 5pm to 10pm while we went out. Mom dropped her off and picked her up.When they first came over, I showed her the sheet of notes with our phone numbers, his bedtime routine, etc. This is when her mom said Sara does not have a cell phone so she couldnt call in case she needed us or there was an emergency. Weird to just tell me now, I thought, but I had a "spare" cell phone (work phone). So I left the work cell phone and the passcode on the note, which said "Passcode to iPhone in case of emergency"Fast forward to 930 when we come home and the phone is on the couch plugged into my charger. She'd clearly been using it. Not a big deal, teens are teens. I open my phone and see she downloaded Snapchat on my work phone and had several conversations going. I decided to look at her story to see if she had posted anything of my son or anything identifying about our house, which she thankfully didnt. However there was a post saying "Snap or Facetime me, I'm bored AF". So she was definitely snapchatting and very well could've face timed on the phone.Fast forward to this morning when I head into the office for work, and I have an email from Apple saying somebody changed the password for my Apple ID on Saturday at 530, 30 minutes after we left and when she shouldve been focused on playing with my son. I said she should play and interact with him until 7 or 730 when it was time for bed. I was wondering how she downloaded apps without knowing my apple password, so that was how. She changed my password then deleted the text message that automatically comes through when it's updated.At this point, I just dont want her in my house again. Obviously i didnt know anything had happened when her mom picked her up Saturday night, so we were both excited things went well and her mom and I agreed Sara could babysit for us another time very soon.Am I an asshole for cutting this off and not giving her another chance? Also, am I an asshole for calling her mom and letting her know what she did and why she is no longer welcome? I'm not trying to be a scrooge but this seems like a big deal to do the FIRST time you're babysitting somebody's child. Even as a 15 year old.Any advice is appreciatedTLDR; teenager using my "emergencies only " phone to do teenager things while she was supposed to be watching my infant son. Am I an asshole for cutting off the relationship and telling her mom what happened? Mom has my contact info and thinks we're going to set up another time soon, so I don't think I can just "ghost" via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2vkbmYW
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