I’ll admit I struggled after having both of my kids, now 4.5 and 2.5. I was wondering if I was cut out to be a parent and if we’d made the right decision to have a family. I often wondered if this was because I had them in my early 30s and was more established so it was harder. I felt as though I had sacrificed EVERYTHING that was ME for THEM. It sounds extreme, but it’s true when they rely on you for everything and your life revolves around them. All my hobbies were replaced with keeping small humans happy and healthy and it didn’t help that my second hated every single person besides me.(And yes, I have a wonderful husband and some close family that helps when they can, but kids are all hands on deck as most of you know. )But oh my gosh guys, it gets easier and better and I want all of you to know! I NEED you all to know because man I wish I knew. I was just over here pretending and hoping and I don’t know what my plan was if it didn’t get better.This year after the holidays, something changed. It’s like all the new toys are a good distraction and their capabilities have them at an age to help themselves and each other more.I started being able to go to the bathroom without someone banging on the door, having the time and ability to actually think about texting and calling friends and family, not just responding to messages sent to me, sending friends flowers who were dealing with hard times, planning nights out and trips, going SKIING, and I’m back at the gym and watching what I eat more closely. Self care is a thing again!I have no idea what changed exactly, but I want you all to know that it’s not just what everyone tells you so you keep chugging along and make it through another day. I’m proof. I’m over here and it’s getting better by the moment! These two are actually getting pretty fun to hang out with, too. But their jokes need some work.You’ve got this! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Go9LUj
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