I have an uncle (by marriage) that I can't stand. He's about 65. He has creeped me out for years because I have caught him looking at me across the room at family events & it is gross. He is also handsy & tries to cuddle you a lot, particularly after a few drinks.Recently he told my toddler (18 month old) "Don't you look sexy in your jacket?" At a family lunch he wolf whistled at her & later tried to grab her several times to pick her up and she had to shake him off.My husband and I have been arguing about it because I don't want to go to family gatherings where the creep is present & my husband says I'm overreacting, that I am just highly sensitive to it because there was sexual abuse in my family. He says "There was no malice behind it. Yes, it was inappropriate but he didnt mean anything by it." & also that I am going to alienate myself and our kids from the rest of the family if we don't go to gatherings.It makes me extremely uncomfortable. On one hand I don't know of I do overreact in these situations & on the other hand all I care about is keeping my baby safe, I don't want her to learn she has to tolerate this type of shit & I don't think it's ever ever ever ok to call a toddler "sexy." I don't think I'm "alienating" us, I think the creep has alienated us.Am I being overly sensitive? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Mt5yCg
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