My sad toddler

Today we went and visited SIL. She has a 4 yo and 2 yo and I have a 3 yo and 5 mo. It was nice out so we went and sat in the yard and chatted and held baby while the girls played. After a little while my niece decided she was hungry, so SIL went inside and got snacks for all of the kids as well as for us. We had yogurt raisins. Her oldest does like she always does any food and devoured her box instantly. The youngest clumsily flung hers all over the ground, picked up a few and ate them and came to me and SIL to get some of ours. I am not a fan of raisins, so I gladly shared my box with my nieces.Now my daughter, does what she always does, and takes her time with her raisins, savoring every last one. Once mine and SIL's boxes were depleted, my nieces, naturally, went for my daughter's. First the oldest tried to take it from her, my daughter pulled away and SIL spoke up. My neice was upset. "But she has more than me!" Well... yeah, technically at this moment, she wasn't wrong, but that wasn't the point. "But you all had the same amount, you just ate yours more quickly and she saved hers," SIL explained, but niece was still a little sad. Then the youngest tried to get some from my daughter, who at this point only had one left, so she just said no and ate it. Then the neices came to me and begged for more, so I showed them my empty box. The kids quickly forgot about the raisins and went back to playing.On the car ride home the following conversation ensues:Toddler: Mommy, I am sad.Me: Why are you sad sweetheart?Toddler: I am sad about my cousins.Me: I know you wanted to stay and play, but it was time for us to go. We will see them again and you can play together again!Toddler: No, I am sad about my cousins and the beans (she called the raisins beans).Me: Oh? What about them?Toddler: I am sad because when I didn't share my beans with my cousin, she was very sad. I am sad that my cousin was sad.I was so astonished. When did this happen? When did my little tantrum throwing toddler develop the ability to 1. Tell me what she was feeling instead of screaming like a banshee and 2. Feel empathy for others?My little girl is growing up and that makes me very sad, but also very happy, and very very proud. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2YI1yRQ