
My 6yo doesn't like sleeping in her room. She says she has bad dreams, but I think it's more out of jealousy that her baby brother (8 months) sleeps in our room. She's been sleeping in our bed the whole school year. Because my husband is a big guy (6'2", 200lbs), we just have a double size mattress, and our daughter insists that it's me she sleeps with, my husband has been forced to sleep on the couch. Well, I finally had enough.I've always been careful to be honest with her. We told her that some people believe in Santa/God/the Tooth Fairy/the Easter Bunny and some people don't, but haven't told her or encouraged the idea that they unequivocally exist. When I was pregnant last year, we told her the biology (but left out the mechanics) of how babies are made. When her uncle (who had been ill) died last year and my niece (her favorite cousin) was killed in a car accident last January, we had frank and honest but age appropriate discussions about death. I don't like lying to her. With the sleeping arrangements, we talked about how the dreams aren't reality, that everyone (even grownups) sometimes have bad dreams. I tried sitting in her room (she has a loft bed that can't handle my adult weight, so I couldn't cuddle with her) until she fell asleep, we tried reading positive or happy stories, tried light TV shows at bedtime like Mr. Rogers, we tried meditation, journaling, warm baths followed by lavender lotion just before bedtime, scented candles, chamomile tea, everything we could think of. She kept having bad dreams and insisting she sleep with me. Finally, because she's into unicorns, I got her a set of unicorn sheets. I made her bed and stacked all her stuffed unicorns on top. This is where I lied. I told her that unicorns have a special magic that keeps their charges safe. I told her that it might take a few nights for the unicorns to understand her bad dreams, so it might take some time before the dreams stop.It worked. But I feel so guilty about lying. I think it was the right thing, especially since nothing else worked. But I just can't get past the idea that my lying might in the future cause her to distrust me. Did I really do the right thing? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2Wa34ij
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