Does anyone actually "have it all"?

Apologies in advance for this "first world problems" type rant, but lately I have been feeling deceived about the idea I have had my whole life that anyone can really have it all (being a good mother and wife, thriving career, social life, etc.). I mean this especially for women but perhaps it applies to some men too.For some background, I just turned 30 and I'm a first time mom to my 5 month old baby. I decided to quit my job to be with my baby for at least his first year since I did not expect to have an overwhelming opposition to putting him in a daycare so young. My "mother instincts" kicked in and made my job feel pretty meaningless compared to caring for my son. My husband and I want 2 more kids, and because of my age we will probably have them as soon as we can - which means it doesn't make sense for me to return to my career in a meaningful way.My problem is that I have spent practically my entire life getting educated (with student loans and working to pay for classes), climbing the corporate ladder at a top wall street firm, building my resume and network, and now I spend every single day changing diapers, trying to cook, doing laundry, and other mindless tasks. I feel that society made me think that I can (and should) just continue my job, pump milk at work (which is actually nearly impossible at my office), and generally go about my life as if I didn't just create this helpless little human that literally needs all of my time. The emotions and demands of motherhood I feel are severely underestimated by our society.I know there is a big push lately for men and women to be "equal" but we are just not equal in all respects. I am the only one who can breastfeed my child. I am the only one who has to go through the difficulty of pregnancy and childbirth and postpartum healing, which for each kid is basically a year-long ordeal. And now I have to go through the feeling of giving up my career and all that I have worked toward for over the past 12 years.So I have to know, does anyone out there really have it all? Does it get easier as kids get older? I follow some moms on social media who seem to have it all but I recently found out that most of them use multiple nannies. I just wish someone would have told me when I started in my career that if I want kids it would throw my career path way off course or even end it. I feel that if I chose to put my kid in daycare at 16 weeks and go back to work, it would feel totally unnatural, I would be consumed with guilt, and I would have to take more maternity leaves in the near future anyway for the additional kids. Has anyone else been deceived by this idea, or did you figure out how to have it all? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2H8KeRK