Under what circumstances is a nickname inappropriate?

When my 1st son was born, my husband and I had decided to name our son ... say "JIMMY". When we announced, my family was unexpected and intensely opposed to the name for legitmate reasons. They explained why it could be bad. After some reflections, my husband and I agreed to make "Jimmy" his middle name. I still loved the name "JIMMY". The day he was born - my family looked down in his hospital bassinet and collectively agreed - he was definitely a "Jimmy". From that day, he was "JIMMY" to almost everyone .When we conceived our second son, we went through every baby book and name dictionary we could find. No name fit. We found different naming registries even ones from other cultures and countries and Nada. When his birth neared we both compromised on a name say - "Julius". I was not partial to the name - my family hated it and my husband resigned that it was the least hated name and still acceptable realm so we kept it. A few days after a his birth we brought "Jimmy" (then 2 years old ) to meet his little brother. He rubbed his head and kissed him and affectionately called him - Owen. We corrected him but no - he insisted Owen was his name. Owen was actually his personal mispronunciation of Julius ... but It resonated It only took a day for it to catch and from then on he has been "Owen" at home.Owen is now 2 years old and Jimmy is now 4 years old. I have two children that are called names that are not on their birth certificate. While this makes sense to us, many others find it uncomfortable. They are concerned it is inappropriate. That it is confusing for the child. It is very confusing for them for sure. They were introduced into the world with one name - but then given another name - that is not a fun name or a real nickname - rather a true name, and in some instance not a middle name - but a totally different name. The explanation doesn't make it any better :(Others say this is creating an awkward environment for them that will become more awkward as they get older.We are not going to change their birth certificates or go to court so - perhaps we do need to change back. For their sake? Such an odd scenario, I am wondering if anyone has any thoughts or reflections on this ? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2DCZYGe