Ok, bear with me here, I'm not even sure if this post fits on this sub. This is my first time posting here, so I apologize in advance for breaking any rules.With that out of the way, let me get into it. My wife grew up never knowing her biological father. In the almost 10 years we've been together I know this has bothered her greatly. A few years ago she by chance managed to locate him on Facebook and they connected. They immediately became a part of our life and for the last year and a half they have been visiting, had our oldest (teenage daughter) over for a weekend, and have become a very active part of our lives. Our two youngest almost immediately began calling them Grandad and Grandma, (all of which I wasn't ok with, because we know nothing about these people or their past, but my wife is so excited about finally knowing her biological father that she didn't even think anything about it. We have talked about it) and they have offered to babysit our two youngest (2 year old son and 3 year old daughter). I have vehemently said no to this as again, I know nothing about these people.I have talked to my wife about all this, although I have tried to do it in a way that doesn't make this whole situation "about me" if that makes any sense. In short though, I just get an incredibly bad "vibe" from her biological father, and his girlfriend. Immediately after meeting him, I got a talk from him saying "don't you hurt my daughter now", bear in mind this was after we had been together for 8 years and had 2 kids together (my teenage daughter is biologically from another relationship, but she is my daughter). To this I answered "Don't you hurt my wife now.".This, coupled with stories about why he wasn't around just don't make any sense. I feel like they are hiding something, or putting on a facade for us, and don't ever want to talk about their pasts. It REALLY rubs me the wrong way, but the kids love them, they treat everyone great, I just can't shake this feeling in my gut that something is off and it bothers me every time they are here. I feel like I have to be "on guard" when we are around them. I'm very careful to not have this show, but I don't know what else to do with someone who makes me so uncomfortable.Am I being ridiculous? Any parents who reconnected after years with kids who were adults with families have any tips or anything I can do to feel more comfortable? Or is there something that sounds off to other people too? I'm the only person who doesn't adore them in my family and it makes me feel like I'm just out to hate them for no reason, but something deep down just doesn't trust them.Anyways, any advice, tips, or opinions would be greatly appreciated.*TLDR: Wife connected with biological dad after decades, and my whole family loves them, but things have rubbed me the wrong way, and I don't trust them. Advice? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2FJMKxm
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