UPDATE "I don't want to know if our son is different"

first of all. I didn't think my post would get nearly that much attention. Thank you everybody for your support. I've read every comment but there's honestly no way I could reply to them all.WARNING: this may get pretty long LO's doctor's appointment I came home to a completely fed up husband. He tells me that our son has violently hitting his head all morning and that he wasn't going to accept teething for a reason. I asked him if he's going to help me push for an answer and he agrees. My son is literally banging on his head crying up until the moment leave. He takes a nap and the car and wakes as the happiest child ever. He's doctor came and asked why we were here today and my husband tell him "He keeps hitting his head, I know is isn't an ear infection or teething. It's been going on way to long. My son hitting his head as gotten progressively worst in the past few months. It started a tapping and playing with his ear randomly, to only when he's upset but still fairly gentle, to upset and looking painful.His doctor starting examining him "ears look good", "good eye contract" and "oh you communicate so well. My son was sitting there babbling away. He sit down and says "I know y'all aren't going to say it but he's not autistic. He makes eye contact and autistic kids don't know that. This is probably just a thing he does". He starts going over milestones. All the physical ones my husband and I quickly say yeah he does that but when he asked about peek a boo. I tell him no and my husband say yeah he's never been into that. He knows you're still there. Then his doctor asked if our son knew the difference between his parents and strangers and before we get to answer he say I don't think he's every met a stranger. We start telling him about how our son will try to leave Walmart with anyone and everyone. He sees people waking and just starts following them. I never ask about my other concerns and we walk out with "he just does that".After the appointment As soon as we get in the car my husband asks if autistic kids beat on their heads. I told him sometime and asks if he wants a second opinion. He nods and says I just don't know any other doctors around here we would bring him to. Of course, I get home and look up early intervention. it seems like all the places a could find on our state's site where surrounding the capital (4 hours away) the closest one was 2 hours away but said on the site their resources are limited and the can not promise to be able to evaluate every kid that applies. Without his doctor on my side it sounds like this may be a tough road.I came out that doctor's appointment a little relieved but also more confused. All my son's other behaviors I can accept has "just sometime he does" but the fact that he seems in distress while hitting his head is too stressful to ignore. I feel like there's a million other reason besides ear infection, autism and just sometime he does and the fact that he doctor didn't put much effort to figure it out bothers me. He's doctor never helps with my concerns. My son doesn't sleep well, get over it, My son doesn't eat well,get over it. Oh and the fact my son hasn't gain weight in 3 months wasn't addressed from his doctor's standpoint it's probably fine but as a mother dealing with a kid who hates food there's a lot of fear involved. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2Hzgjif