UPDATE: My 11 yo threw eggs at a neighbor's house and car

I managed to get all the kids over to go and apologize. As we reached the man's driveway I told them to wait behind while I go first to check that he's okay with them coming over to apologize. The man opened the door and said he doesn't want an apology. I then asked if they can do any work for him to make amends and he said he doesn't want any help from those scoundrels but to send the other one over (by the other one he meant my other daughter). I figured the man doesn't care for apologies and wants compensation for the egging without having to deal with the "scoundrels" (understandable), so I said ok. It isn't his job to punish/ make consequences for the kids after all. He just wants compensation.I took the kids back home and told them they won't get an opportunity to apologize, which is a valuable lesson. Then I told my 13 yo daughter what happened and that she has to go over to do some work for the man. She wasn't too excited about it but went over right away without complaining. She got back 4 hours later and told me she had to clean both his bathrooms (properly, descaling agent and scrubbing of all the tiles, rinsing of the shower drain and the pipes to the sinks, plus the regular cleaning of a bathroom) and then hang his laundry. During the entire time he barely said a word to her. When she was done with the laundry all he said had been "and off you go"I guess nothing went as planned but the man got amends which is the most important. He was the victim after all (asshole victim or not doesn't matter).I won't be punishing my 11 yo because she regrets what she did and won't do it again and that's enough for me. Plus she already had the natural consequence of a stomach ache all day.My 13 yo got the short end of the stick. I think the man was an asshole for assuming she will do work for him to compensate for what her sister did. She had nothing to do with it and is of course not responsible for her sister. If he had asked me to do the work, fine, I take responsibility for my child, but she shouldn't have to. I told my 13 yo this and that I will compensate her for it in one way or another when opportunity arises. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2z7AWRi